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#1 luvtoteachlaw

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    Posted 09 September 2008 - 08:35 PM

    A legally married gay couple? My fiancee's cousin is from MA where gay marriage is legal. I am in a position where I don't know exactly if his spouse took the cousin's last name, or how to properly address the save the date cards. I mean, for hetero couples, it is "Mr. and Mrs" . . . what do you do for a "Mr. and Mr." if they are married?

    Thanks in advance for your help!

    #2 stacey

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      Posted 09 September 2008 - 08:45 PM

      oooohhh that a new one. I havent seen that one in the etiquette books yet. I dont have a clue, sorry.
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      #3 Banana11

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        Posted 09 September 2008 - 08:50 PM

        I think you could just ask what last name they are using? And then maybe do The Johnson Family for example.

        #4 amyh

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          Posted 09 September 2008 - 08:59 PM

          This is what I found by googling:

          Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first.

          Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first).

          Gay Married Couple with the same last name
          Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John
          Inner: The Messrs. John
          Gay Married Couple with different last names
          Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish
          Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

          #5 lmg970

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            Posted 09 September 2008 - 09:00 PM

            I do know a few who have married here in mass, but each have different with their last names. but it is generally mr and mr or mrs and mrs, but I do see your dilema

            #6 Erica053009

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              Posted 09 September 2008 - 09:24 PM

              I would just do ...Mr. John Smith & Mr. Don Smith

              #7 rodent

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                Posted 09 September 2008 - 09:46 PM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by amyh
                This is what I found by googling:

                Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first.

                Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first).

                Gay Married Couple with the same last name
                Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John
                Inner: The Messrs. John
                Gay Married Couple with different last names
                Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish
                Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

                is messrs plural for mr? I have not seen that yet. I guess mrs doesnt work for mr x 2.

                #8 Morton-Woods

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                  Posted 09 September 2008 - 11:06 PM

                  If they have the same last name you could put Mr. John and Jack Smith if they have different last names then i would list them both

                  #9 Celina

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                    Posted 10 September 2008 - 03:00 PM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by amyh
                    This is what I found by googling:

                    Gay couples are listed on two lines, with the most familiar partner listed first.

                    Mr. Paul and John Smith (depending on the last name they use and who you are most familiar with listed first).

                    Gay Married Couple with the same last name
                    Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John
                    Inner: The Messrs. John
                    Gay Married Couple with different last names
                    Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish
                    Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish

                    Amy is a Google-n' Girl!

                    You know, I have an aunt who got legally married to her partner. I sent the invitation to Mrs. & Mrs. Giron-Smith (since they didn't change their last names) I put my aunts last name first.
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                    #10 EricaG

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                      Posted 10 September 2008 - 04:02 PM

                      That is something that I never thought of. That is something that will have to be added into the ettiquette books.
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