I need to know how to handle this situation...
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:02 AM
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:08 AM
His Aunt and Uncle were going to come, but cancelled their trip because they "couldn't afford it". A month before our wedding they went to Punta Cana for a week. They later told us they weren't coming because they saw it as a family reunion and when his sisters cancelled, they "didn't see the point in coming".
His dad never booked his trip. We had put down his deposit as well and lost the money. We left for Jamaica thinking he wasn't coming. 2 days after we got there the hotel manager told us that they received an internet booking for our wedding and wondered if we knew the person. It was his dad, who showed up 2 hours before we got married, half-lit, and refused to put nice clothes on. When he showed up, he said he wanted to surprise us. Who the hell surprises someone at their wedding?
I take my DH's lead in how he wants to handle these things. He is constantly let down by them, but is not ready to cut them off, so I smile pretty and keep my mouth shut. If it was up to me I'd tell them all to go to hell and stop hurting my husband. But, its his family, so I let him tell me how he wants to deal with it. Someday I hope he'll be ready to tell them all off, but that day is not today...
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:13 AM
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:17 AM
The part about his sister not wanting to fly because she was 4months pregnant is funny (*sarcasm*) My cousin was 8 1/2months pregnant and flew to BC from LA for her sister's wedding on her doctor's ok...the sh**t people come up with to not come to weddings baffles me!
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:25 AM
Posted 03 September 2008 - 11:31 AM
Sorry you are going through this. It is amazing how people act and react to DW's. I say F'them!
Guess, I am grumpy too!
Posted 03 September 2008 - 02:15 PM
Posted 03 September 2008 - 02:46 PM
I have in-laws very similar only diff is they wouldn't bloody dare do it to be because they know FI can't control what I say or do and that i'd tell them straight lol hence why I haven't spoken to his mother for ooo 8 months lmao
Our wedding will be interesting cause i'm not talking to the evil witch there either and if she asks me why I'll tell her lmao
If your FI has written them off just cut them off and don't have anything to with them and when they contact you tell them to poke off - unfortunately its a fact of life that some people are just oxygen theifs lol
Posted 03 September 2008 - 02:47 PM
But, if you make yourself a doormat now, there is no turning back...
But now is not really a good time for me to be offering advice.
Hang in there! I'm with ya girl!
0 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users