Some questions..please help!
Posted 17 August 2008 - 02:44 PM
I have a few questions I hope some of you can help me with.
1. My fmil just asked what we plan on giving the guests because they are paying to come to our wedding. We plan on having the OOT bags and favors. She suggested we actually give a gift..such as a gift certificate to a restaurant to our guests. We absolutely cannot afford this.
Is anyone actually giving a gift like that to your guests? Are we wrong not doing this.
I'm giving parents a gift, my MOH, and Flower girls. Best man and ring bearer but not to all the guests.
2. We come from NY where everything is expensive. We are having a DW to save money and only have our very close family and friends. That being said, we are paying for everything and having a RD with just immediate family.
We cannot afford a welcome dinner. We honestly cannot afford anything but the reception.
Does anyone have any ideas on how we can incorporate all guests in the celebration. We were thinking about meeting for drinks after the RD but don't think we can afford paying for everyones drinks and then having the open bar for our reception the next night.
I'm so stressed/upset. I want everyone to enjoy themselves and not look at me as if I did nothing to "treat" them because they came to an Island to see us get married.
I don't know what to do! Please any suggestions will help! Thank you all so much.
Posted 17 August 2008 - 02:59 PM
Posted 17 August 2008 - 03:21 PM
You aren't putting a gun to their heads to make them come to the wedding they want to come and lets face it if they knew that by giving them all a pressie it made you really skint they wouldn't want it.
Stick to your plans. If people want to meet for a drink then they can it does NOT mean you have to buy all the drinks
I'm not giving any of my guests gifts and nor am I doing OOT bags, its not done in the UK anyway and our luggage has really low restrictions. FI did say he wanted to get something for his mother and my response was wtf for she's paying for nothing and she's a PITA - if he wants to get her something HE pays for it lol there again i can't stand the cow lmao
Posted 17 August 2008 - 03:38 PM
Posted 17 August 2008 - 03:51 PM
Posted 17 August 2008 - 04:23 PM
The hotel is not in an all-inclusive but everyone is getting a pretty good deal by going through a travel agent.
I'm just going to do what I'm doing and not worry about what anyone thinks. Everyone invited to this wedding I am very very close to so I can't imagine anyone even thinking that I should have given them a $50 gift on top of everything else! I thought it was a very nervy suggestion..but I do love her. She tries.
I just want everyone to have a good time. We are really trying to plan a elegant, classy nice wedding so everyone enjoys themselves. We are on a tight budget.
Posted 17 August 2008 - 04:29 PM
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Posted 17 August 2008 - 08:10 PM
Posted 17 August 2008 - 10:06 PM
I am doing a welcome dinner but it is AI and I am making the reservations for the immediate family and then meeting everyone at the bar for AI drinks
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