HELP - do I ask my BM to step down??
Posted 19 June 2008 - 11:40 AM
Wedding: My wedding is in 3 months and we are doing a DW in Bermuda, about 97% of our guests will be going to the island via cruise ship with us. The only ones meeting us there can't take the time off or in the case of one of my bridesmaids will have a 4 week old newborn. Financially it doesnt make sense for any guests to go straight to the Island because the same amount will give them a 5 day cruise vacation. Booking has already closed with final balances being paid out the beginning of July.
My Bridesmaids: my bridesmaids consist of my best friends since highscoo. 3 of the 4 are married and in each of their weddings it was the same group (give or take a sister or other friend). So when I got engaged it was only naturaly for me to choose my 4 best friends. It is also worth to note that the BM who is giving me issues just got married 3 weeks ago and I was in the bridal party. Wedding was great and me and the other BM's did everything this asked.
So, this brings us to my dillema ... one of my BM's has yet to make her cruise reservation or let me know if she is going straight to the Island. There has been NO communication of her attendance, when we ordered their dresses she didnt try them on and until I left several voicemails and emails did she write me back with her measurements and a check in the mail (as all of you know its best to order the dresses at once so the color is the same and she knew she was holding up the process). Still today, I have no idea whether she is coming and from a bigger picture she has given me no support. It hurts me even more because I was there for her wedding and supposedly she is one of my best friends. My other BM's dont really know what to say, they agree that its horrible that she is doing this, but there is hesitency to cut her out of the party since she has been our best friend for more then 10 years.
So what do i do?
1. Do nothing
2. Call her on it and then depending on her reaction make a decision
Thanks in advance for all your advice!!
Posted 19 June 2008 - 11:46 AM
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Posted 19 June 2008 - 12:20 PM
From there, go on. If she starts being wishy-washy, you have your answer...
Good luck, chica!
Posted 19 June 2008 - 12:28 PM
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