BM Vent aka- I'll be wearing orange on my wedding day

[NYJen]

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Originally Posted by ErinB ***UPDATE*** One BM who is the Maid of Honor (I also have a Matron of Honor that I have had no problems with) is going. She put $1000 on a credit card and is supposedly going to pay us back the rest. The other BM (cousin of MOH) still has not returned a phone call from myself or my mom! It's been nearly 3 weeks! So I told MOH that I had to talk to her ASAP to get this figured out. I told her that I wasn't mad (lie) but that I need an answer one way or another. If she doesn't go, she can still wear the dress to my AHR. If I am going to have to pay for someone to go, I'll be sure it is a member of MY family, one of my aunts, etc. who I know will appreciate it.

If I were you, I would call that BM (cousin of MOH) and leave a message telling her to return the BM dress to you. I would let her know that since she hasn't made any payments and since she's been avoiding your phone calls, you just assume she's not going so you got someone else to step in (since you had to pay for the trip anyway.) I would also say, "I can't believe you're willing to f*ck me over and ruin our friendship because you're not mature enough to just talk to me about whatever it is that's changed your mind about going." Since you still haven't actually spoken to her, you can play it like you have no idea why she isn't coming. Let her be the one to tell you it's about $$$. And if it were me, after she gave you a whole song and dance about not being able to go because of money, I would say "That's BS that it's about money, you've known the cost since March 2007. It MUST be something else." Make her feel stupid. Why should you be the only one stressed out.

(I'm sorry, I'm such a bitch, I know. But I just hate stupid, inconsiderate people.)

[jajajaja]

I agree with Jen. Get the dress back then sell it. ANd sell all her BM gifts too. You can at least recoup some money and she doesn't deserve an honorary roll at your AHR. At least in my opinion. HUGE difference in telling you upfront there is an issue and waiting til last minute. I'm all about understanding why people choose not to go to a DW, but not when it's this last minute flakey shit. GRR....

[Hartyt509]

I can't believe people so called friends have done that!! I thought it was bad enough that my best mate has told me she has booked up when i know she hasn't!!

 

I'd have been banging on their door and then their face myself - so good for you for holding your composure

[marip123]

Oh My! That just sucks! I'm so, so sorry! We've had to deal with flakiness too, but not to this extent! It's really wrong!

[sarahbrown1979]

That makes me so hungry. You need to tell them that at this point in the game, regardless of if they go or not, they need to cough up the money. Good luck!

 

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[FYB87]

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Originally Posted by NYJen If I were you, I would call that BM (cousin of MOH) and leave a message telling her to return the BM dress to you. I would let her know that since she hasn't made any payments and since she's been avoiding your phone calls, you just assume she's not going so you got someone else to step in (since you had to pay for the trip anyway.) I would also say, "I can't believe you're willing to f*ck me over and ruin our friendship because you're not mature enough to just talk to me about whatever it is that's changed your mind about going." Since you still haven't actually spoken to her, you can play it like you have no idea why she isn't coming. Let her be the one to tell you it's about $$$. And if it were me, after she gave you a whole song and dance about not being able to go because of money, I would say "That's BS that it's about money, you've known the cost since March 2007. It MUST be something else." Make her feel stupid. Why should you be the only one stressed out. (I'm sorry, I'm such a bitch, I know. But I just hate stupid, inconsiderate people.)

I totally agree. I am so sorry you are going through this. But, I would definitely get the dress back.

[Martha]

Since you are already having to pay her trip, can't she just go and pay you back? Although, she should have been responsible to pay it herself to begin with.

[melody]

WOW! I cannot believe this from friends! although, I am not surprised, some people would rather avoid and stick their heads in the sand rather than deal with a situation...I see it everyday at work It is really irritating and sadly do not take people at their words anymore; but this coming from your best friends, that is totally unacceptable and would be a friendship deal breaker specially if they left you with the bill.

 

I totally agree and get the dress back...personally, I would not want to have anything to do with her..she is NOT a friend IMO if she cannot talk to you and is not returning your phone calls.