BM Vent aka- I'll be wearing orange on my wedding day

[~Kate~]

This is soooo frustrating! It doesn't make any sense - you did everything right! You told them the price way in advance (and the price is very reasonable), made sure they were okay with it....crazy!!! Please keep us updated on the situation.

[rodent]

Wouldn't you just be out the deposit? Isn't that what a deposit is? The ammount you lose if you back out? I can understand them saying $2000 is too much IF it hadn't already been paid. But, once it gets paid they can't back out!

 

I know it's too late for you, but I think it really helps with a DW to never be counting on anyone for anything. To fill your required numbers, to pay you back a deposit...nothing.

[Maura]

omg erin wtf. i have two words for you, you just need to keep repeating them (i swear this helps): serenity NOW

[ErinB]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Wouldn't you just be out the deposit? Isn't that what a deposit is? The ammount you lose if you back out? I can understand them saying $2000 is too much IF it hadn't already been paid. But, once it gets paid they can't back out! I know it's too late for you, but I think it really helps with a DW to never be counting on anyone for anything. To fill your required numbers, to pay you back a deposit...nothing.

We would have only been out the depoist if the "committment date" hadn't passed. It was April 15th, which they both knew. Since we are travelling as a group we had to have everything finalized then, release the hold on all seats and rooms, and pay in full by the 3rd. We are under a group contract so we are liable for the group. We have already turned in names to both the airline and the resort. So at this point we pay for empty seats if anyone backs out. (but everyone else has paid)

They told me a while back they were going to contact the TA to start paying, so they wouldn't have a lump sum due at the end. Silly me assumed that 27 year old women could/would take care of themselves and handle things. I didn't know until I checked in with my TA on Wednesday last week that nothing other than what I paid was on their accounts. I didn't realize that I needed to send them a bill and a reminder every month for the last 15 months to give me or the TA money.

[Chiquita]

That is so crazy! Man, I'm sorry you are dealing with this so close to your wedding. How truly awful of them.. and avoiding you?? How the hell does that help.. crikey. You will seriously have to kick their asses.. so not acceptable behaviour!

[Nrvsbride]

Ok this is really annoying. Sorry if this is a stupid question but do they have to go for 8 days? I'll be honest $2,000 is a lot of money to just have lying around. If they can't afford it now, its doubtful they are going to have the money to pay you back anytime soon.

 

Can they shorten their trip? Couldn't they at least go for the weekend like 3nights-4 days type of thing? Is there traveler's insurance? If so you can usually cancel or at the very least change the dates for a shorter time.

[Yari]

Wow, talk about BS! I am so sorry. Firstly, I wouldn't accept their excuse about not knowing. Secondly, can you have a conversation with your MOH and tell her how blown away you are about the incident?

 

Sorry this is happening to you.

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Ok this is really annoying. Sorry if this is a stupid question but do they have to go for 8 days? I'll be honest $2,000 is a lot of money to just have lying around. If they can't afford it now, its doubtful they are going to have the money to pay you back anytime soon. Can they shorten their trip? Couldn't they at least go for the weekend like 3nights-4 days type of thing? Is there traveler's insurance? If so you can usually cancel or at the very least change the dates for a shorter time.

I think that makes a lot of sense, but they should have brought that up before the commitment date. Most of my guests are staying only 3 days so it's a quick & cheap trip. But, If $2000 was too much, they really should have told you something before they screwed you like this. I am SO ANGRY for you! If they told you in advance they couldn't afford it or were even just concerned about the cost, there would have been so many options. It really sucks that they even waited until it was too late for the trip to go to anyone else or anything.

I can not believe they knowingly stuck you with their bill. I seriously can not believe this.

it wouldn't have been wrong if they just said they don't have the money. What is so wrong is how they waited until it was too late to say something. That is so cruel. Do they know you will now have to foot the bill for their empty seat?

OK I have to calm down. I think I need to say a few serinity nows for you.

[alex]

WOW I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this!! What they're doing is ridicilous & inexcusable!! They need to pull their head's out of their asses & grow up!!! If they couldn't afford it then they should have been upfront about it!! I am pretty livid for you right now!

[jajajaja]

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Originally Posted by Morgan OK I have to calm down. I think I need to say a few serinity nows for you.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who got fired up. I didn't have this drama with my wedding- THANK GOD! But I do have people in my life who flake all the time. Even if it doesn't cost me a penny for them flaking, it's still upsetting. Totally makes you feel like you aren't important enough for them to show up.

Anyways- people like this just suck.