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Do you still send gifts if not attending?

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#11 nikkianddean

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    Posted 01 May 2008 - 12:36 PM

    Originally Posted by DreaW
    I would just send her a card not a gift.
    That seems perfectly appropriate!

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    #12 Dez921714

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      Posted 01 May 2008 - 12:39 PM

      OK, I break all etiquitte rules...if I don't go, I don't send a gift. I know this is bad, but usually, if I don't go it's beacuse I can't afford to: a) travel, B) give a gift or c) both. And this is the same for friends and family. Occasionally I'll give a 1 year anniversary gift instead (and will point out "I didn't get you anything for your wedding, so I figured we'd get you something for you anniversary) but that is very rare. I

      I'm like this with friends and family. So if it was someone I barely knew, I'd RSVP "No" and that would be the end of it. Just tell your friend you ahve prior engagements. Even if it is a concert, you bought the tickets before you got the invitation.
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      #13 Jacqueline

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        Posted 01 May 2008 - 12:40 PM

        Well, it depends. In your case, I wouldnt, since you dont even know her.

        But if a friend sends me an invite to a baby shower, bridal, etc, and I cant make it I normally send a gift...

        #14 chicago88

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          Posted 01 May 2008 - 12:42 PM

          I would just get something small & send it with a friend that was going. I would not got all out or anything.

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          #15 jessLL

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            Posted 01 May 2008 - 12:58 PM

            That is indeed a very strange invitation. maybe she needs to meet the number of guests that she guaranteed. In the same situation I think I would send a card and small gift from her registry.

            #16 frazali

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              Posted 01 May 2008 - 05:24 PM

              Definitely sounds like she needs to meet a minimum. Or else you made quite an impression on her the few times you met her :-)

              I would just rsvp my regrets to the shower. And for the wedding I would rsvp my regrets and write a little note wishing them well.

              #17 Hartyt509

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                Posted 01 May 2008 - 05:30 PM

                Just sent a reply with thanks but no i'm already engaged but thanks for the thought and leave it at that. She sounds like she's after a pressie if you ask me!!

                #18 Taradactyle

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                  Posted 01 May 2008 - 05:36 PM

                  i'll usually send a gift, but it's because i know the couple pretty well. if i only met them four times, i wouldn't send a gift.
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                  #19 Spazz

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                    Posted 01 May 2008 - 06:24 PM

                    I always send gifts to showers and weddings that I can't attend. BUT I have never been invited to one where I only met the person a handful of times. So in your case, I would probably just send a card and maybe a small gift from her registry.

                    #20 Chiquita

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                      Posted 01 May 2008 - 09:04 PM

                      If I knew the person really well and couldn't attend the wedding for whatever reason I would send a gift. Someone I've met 4 times does not fall into that category :)

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