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I want to FIRE my bridal party...

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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but I'm thinking of you and hoping they come around (soon!).

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if you fire them, you should not pay for their accomidations. That will show them :)

 

I tend to side with the bridal party in these situations because I've been through it so many times, but it sounds like you are being more than accomidating & they are not even trying. I would be upset.

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I know I would be pissed- especially since you paid for the trip. Hellooo ungrateful people. They need to start kissing your ass because seriously, if I got a free trip from someone I would be doing whatever I needed to do to make sure I "repaid" them somehow.

 

So you've justified that they aren't an inexperienced bridal party but do you think they may be a bridal party that's over all the wedding crap because they have done it so many times? Like they look at you as an irrational bride since they have the been there, done that attitude?

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I know I would be pissed- especially since you paid for the trip. Hellooo ungrateful people. They need to start kissing your ass because seriously, if I got a free trip from someone I would be doing whatever I needed to do to make sure I "repaid" them somehow.

So you've justified that they aren't an inexperienced bridal party but do you think they may be a bridal party that's over all the wedding crap because they have done it so many times? Like they look at you as an irrational bride since they have the been there, done that attitude?
Exactly!!!!! The been there done that attitude is REALLY coming from Tim's 2 brother's and his sister in law! Which sucks because this is there little brother's wedding! I feel like with the 3 of them specifically that they aren't taking this seriously.........WTF!!!!!! Is this there way of protesting?

And as for having the groomsmen buying suits, we talked to each one of them individually MONTHS ago to see if this was something they could or would be willing to swing! In fact Tim's oldest brother was the one who piped up with......"I don't rent anything!" Ok! well, if you don't rent anything then why haven't you gone for your measurements?

I to think that we've been more than accomidating to our bridal party! The only thing that I've asked of them is to pay for there attire and they're transportation. My one bridesmaid alone, because she has 3 kids and a husband we rented her, her own 4 bedroom house at $1300 for the week!

Seriously, I don't think I crazy and have been a really lax bride thus far, but this has now put me over the edge! It all just really upsets me!

Thanks for all your support. I knew I could count one you ladies! You ladies are the best!

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Wow! I can't believe they are acting like this especially when you are paying for their trips! I apologize if others already asked this, but I didn't read through all the posts. Has your FI talked with his GM about getting the measurements done? I think you may also need to talk with your BMs as well. I would go for a kill them with kindness approach. If that doesn't work then the bridezilla may need to be released.

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Exactly!!!!! The been there done that attitude is REALLY coming from Tim's 2 brother's and his sister in law! Which sucks because this is there little brother's wedding! I feel like with the 3 of them specifically that they aren't taking this seriously.........WTF!!!!!! Is this there way of protesting?

And as for having the groomsmen buying suits, we talked to each one of them individually MONTHS ago to see if this was something they could or would be willing to swing! In fact Tim's oldest brother was the one who piped up with......"I don't rent anything!" Ok! well, if you don't rent anything then why haven't you gone for your measurements?

I to think that we've been more than accomidating to our bridal party! The only thing that I've asked of them is to pay for there attire and they're transportation. My one bridesmaid alone, because she has 3 kids and a husband we rented her, her own 4 bedroom house at $1300 for the week!

Seriously, I don't think I crazy and have been a really lax bride thus far, but this has now put me over the edge! It all just really upsets me!

Thanks for all your support. I knew I could count one you ladies! You ladies are the best!

Wow! They really should be more appreciative. I think you need to talk to them (phone or in person, not email) about how you are feeling.

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WOW! Sounds like you have bent over backwards and have been more than acommodating! I suggest having a sit down with the ENTIRE group! Have FI take those guys - by the hands like some 5year olds - because that's how they are acting - and get their suits.

 

As for the girls, have a sit down with them all together and get everything hashed out. You shouldn't be stressed out about it and your sister shouldn't get treated this way either.

 

I hope things get better for you!smile03.gif

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That stinks!

 

Definitely give them a call. Have your FI call his groomsmen and give them the riot act.

 

I hate that you have to go through this.

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It sucks that you have to go through this...you are helping them out big time by paying their accomodations and this is what you get in return? I really hope this all works out soon...I agree a talk in person or on the phone is needed.

 

I too am going through my own little thing with my bridal party...and I wouldn't think I would have any issues with these people, my cousin who is the MOH has been MIA for 3 wks now...hasnt returned any of my calls or emails...and my bestfriend since 5th grade hasnt even went to get fitted and keeps giving me the run around. I just stopped calling them and just said "the hell with it"..if they come around, great...if they dont, then i'm not stressing it, i know where I stand with them. best of luck to you...let us know what happens. :)

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It sucks that you have to go through this...you are helping them out big time by paying their accomodations and this is what you get in return? I really hope this all works out soon...I agree a talk in person or on the phone is needed.

I too am going through my own little thing with my bridal party...and I wouldn't think I would have any issues with these people, my cousin who is the MOH has been MIA for 3 wks now...hasnt returned any of my calls or emails...and my bestfriend since 5th grade hasnt even went to get fitted and keeps giving me the run around. I just stopped calling them and just said "the hell with it"..if they come around, great...if they dont, then i'm not stressing it, i know where I stand with them. best of luck to you...let us know what happens. :)
I talked to Tim's dad's wife tonight to see if she could get his dad to take of his brothers. As for my bridesmaids I spoke to one today....and she's not really being a problem but she the most supportive other than my sister and said she would pass my feelings on....so my sister didn't have to!

I'm still really pissed though....gun.gifwtf.gifgun.gif

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