Vettiebean

Ooooo nooooo babies for us any time in the next 7ish years. For sure, none for the next five years. I'm 25 now, 26 when we get married, and we aren't ready to bring a lil Vietnamebrew into the world, yet. We need time to be selfish and enjoy being newlyweds first. We also need to establish fulfilling careers and a good chunk of cash before we feel we could responsibly bring a baby into this world. Some people find it selfish to not want children right now, but honestly... I need to be selfish before I can be selfless. Once you have kids, you take the back-burner and that baby should be everything. I know far too many people that have kids and still want to be the wild partying kid. When we finally do decide to have kids, I'll probably get off the depo with the warning to hubby that it could take a year after that to conceive.

LOL Good point at the end, diahr! Also, glad to know my sarcasm and humor shows through the writing. lol you can't always tell in blog/e-communication form. Yeah, people love to come up with cockamamey excuses for why they can't possibly come. Personally, I feel their idiocy fools no one. I am opposite of a lot of brides on here though. I'm actually hoping/expecting no one to come, or at least very few. I always wanted a very small, intimate wedding. FI is just a much nicer person than I am, so he invited a lot of people. I... invited like three people. lol I just want to focus on the fun, party loving people that truly want to be there with us. I don't want people to go and feel like they've done us a huge favor by taking a vacation that they usually take every year anyway. It's like... don't expect me to somehow feel indebted to you, if you are constantly taking passive aggressive jibes at how expensive, how troublesome, and how ill decided this is going to be. STAY HOME! No one wants to deal with that kind of attitude or those ugly faces! Be happy they aren't going, I know would be!

Okay... I consider myself a VERY, VERY considerate, patient, understanding, etc. person. I mean... a couple of the girls that responded here responded to a problem I was having, too, so they can attest I'm not overly dramatic or insane. BUT DEAR DAMN!!!! Ohhh F'in HELLLL No!!! I think this is more upsetting than what I was going through, for damn sure. (Btw, LMFAO at the girls' comments bc I feel the same way!) Now, I fully admit that I'm not perfect. As a matter of fact, when it comes to dealing with people who disrespect or mistreat me, I find it very difficult to keep myself in check. Basically, if I don't make them cry and sob like a worthless, pathetic baby by the time I'm finished, I haven't done my job. Talk about a seriously rude, inconsiderate, selfish, jealous, desperate, psycho! GOOD that she's not staying at your resort. It means you don't have to deal with her unless absolutely necessary! I mean, should someone point out to her that your taste can't possibly be that bad... you're marrying her brother and you picked him, didn't you?? You have every right to be upset. I'm surprised things haven't exploded before, to be honest (although that's prob just a reflection of how i'd react). I think it's great that FI is supportive and understanding of the situation, and is choosing to stay away from her events. Don't get me wrong, I don't typically advocate deteriorating relationships. But each situation is unique. And, at the end of the day, he is choosing you. he is marrying you, and he has a family with you. These are things that FSIL needs to accept and respect. Good luck, girlie! Seriously sending positive vibes your way!!

LOL mexbride, I think a lot of us are having similar experiences. That's why it's so easy for me to talk about this topic and relate! lol I'm glad we can all laugh about it after some venting. It's not easy to deal with, but it does make you realize what's truly important in all this. At first, I didn't want any guests, at all. But I know it's imp to FI to have a few of his best friends there (and some people weren't taking "no, you can't go" for an answer), so we decided to invite people. Now, those same people that insisted on being invited are complaining about our choices. But, you're right, at the end of the day, it's all about you and your fiance. When I heard FMIL's comments, I updated our wedding website to make it very clear that while people are welcome to come and we'd be happy with their presence, we by no means want anyone to feel obligated to go or want anyone to go who has any hesitations or reservations on the matter. Basically... it was my nice way of saying, "I am not gonna deal with your bad attitude at my wedding. So if you have a problem, don't go!" (I should also mention how unbelievable picky some of these guests are... *rolls eyes*) hehe Everyone says it and it's true... weddings really bring out the good and bad in people, and a lot of surprises! Don't worry, concentrate on how amazing the trip and wedding will be, take lots of awesome pictures, and I assure you, the other guests will be drooling in envy once you get back and the stories are shared!

My absolute pleasure!!! I love those suits! I think they're very fun, attractive, trendy, and like you said, totally not your typical boring one pice suit! I didn't mean to hijack this thread from anyone, but as you can see... I seem to have a true passion and adoration for swimwear! hehe The white is cute and fit for the bride look. But I absolutely adore the black and pink suit. Pink is my fave color, even my e-ring and a couple of my bands are pink lol

Aww I'm really sorry mexbride! I know it's hard bc it's your special day and you want your close loved ones there with you. But hard as it is, try not to let it bother you too much. Think of it this way. After I heard the comments, I thought it was better if people with those sentiments NOT go at all. I do not want attitude, complaints, and grimacing faces during my wedding week. That would upset me much worse than missing a few sour guests. As for prominent, wealthy people in Mexico... it seems a lot of people must have missed the nonstop media action over all the celebrities relaxing and partying in Mexico (Cabo to be precise) over the holidays.

Ohhh I've got a good one! Okay, FI's mom is... a handful in many senses. We've given her wedding details no less than six times and she NEVER remembers. Well then the other day, she asks FI where the wedding is going to be. "Cancun, Mexico" is the answer, of course. Her reply was something along the lines of, "Ohhh..... oh really? Oh gosh.. oh no." Note: She likes to make these grimacing faces, too. FI: "did you stub your toe?" Mom: "huh?" FI: "did you stub your toe? You said 'uh oh' so I was wondering what was wrong." Mom: "oh... no... well... is it a joke? are you joking? Cancun?... I mean.. I don't think Dad and I can go, it's dangerous with the mexican cartels." FI's response was basically that his parents are more than invited and he hopes they go, but we don't give a shit who's going and we're doing it for ourselves, and that our wedding shouldn't accommodate everyone else bc it's about us. (of course, he said it in a much nicer tone and form than how I'm paraphrasing) It's like umm... I just moved from Chicago (how many murders are there a week in the wealthiest neighborhoods?) to LA (have you tried walking down Sunset?). And I'm originally from south Texas, so ... yeah. I'm just sitting back and watching the ignorance floating around.

Sounds like a fantastic solution! That's so, so sweet of your mom to do that for you. No one is helping us with well... anything! lol. But it's alright. It just means all the saving we do now is for something great in our future. Let us know how the tasting goes!

Hi Kya! I have no doubt you'll look fantastic. There are a couple really cute suits at Nordstroms right now. Bandeau one piece suits. I have a ton of bikinis and a few suits. Normally, I prefer to look slightly more modest when parental units be lurking about. I do not, however, compromise style to do it! lol I am not sure if I will wear any one piece suits at all during the week, but I like to have my options open. Not sure about your budget, but here are two style that may work... Note: I typically, and def in this case, would aim for tops that twist, scrunch, or have the sweetheart neckline for bandeaus. Def something to keep in mind for brides with sweetheart necklines, not just straight across strapless. http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/la-blanca-by-rod-beattie-one-piece-bandeau-swimsuit/3066210?origin=category&resultback=1624 http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/miraclesuit-hanging-garden-soleil-one-piece/3129330?origin=category&resultback=2398 Hi Tenny! VS, Vix, Bluefly, Nordstroms, Everything But Water (used to be Just Add Water)... Hit up all those places/sites. I like the two styles I posted above, too. As long as it's sweetheart-ish, it'll have a nice, shapely effect. I figure post wedding day, I can have all the tan lines I want! Funny because as of right now, my AHR is just a few days after MX, but I don't care a crap about tan lines on that day. lol Let the bikinifest begin!!!

Hi Janet, I think that's an absolutely wonderful idea!! I think the beauty of these gifts, whether it be bags, cigars, or tokens, is all about the gesture and sincerity. I'm all for showing my guests I appreciate their presence, and I think you've found a good way to do that. Not to mention, talk about a hassle free, easy to travel idea! like you said, the money would be spent either way, so it's a really good gift idea.

Funny enough, no tattoos to cover up here. However, I do plan on getting a couple tattoos. BUT, I've decided not to get them until after all the wedding stuff/photos, etc. This may sound weird to some people, but I want timeless, dreamy feel to my photographs. I'm actually planning on getting them as soon as I'm back from my AHR in Texas lol Once I'm married and all those photos are done, unlike some brides, I actually think I'll feel more liberated than stifled.

I think something important to remember is that we all have a different idea of what our AHR will be like and what we want from it. No two will be the exactly the same, so the "general rules" don't apply to everything. Really depends on the situation, everything from culture to time of day to time of year to number of guests... you name it. For example, if you are having a very casual event, and it would basically be just like any other Sunday bbq with family and friends, except with some extra cupcakes and cheers, then by all means, bringing side dishes to the host's event is normal. However, if you plan on having something more formal, I wouldn't suggest asking guests to bring food. It's totally different if, like Hoyt, you are only asking a FEW, VERY CLOSE guests to assist in making the food, but you still pay for everything. This, to me, is still considered providing the food for your guests, not a pot luck and not asking people to bring things necessarily (they're not losing money, just giving time). And, I still suggest that for more informal affairs. If you're worried about costs, I recommend either cutting the guest list or having a very informal affair. I had to make a lot of tough decisions to stay within budget and compromise a few things I wanted, but I knew what was important to me and what I HAD to have. There are ways to cut costs, for sure. In my case, my parents aren't going to my DW, but I'd like to do something special for them. I'll be the first daughter to have a wedding ceremony (another eloped, two are single), so I'm opting to have a very nice lunch in a private room at a local steakhouse. Lunch is cheaper than dinner, and it's still an opportunity to get sorta dressed up and celebrate. Private event/room, cake provided, sit down meal, just cheaper and during the day instead of at night. It's all personal preference, too. My FI wanted to have a very informal party, as in... let's all go somewhere and treat it exactly like a bday party, more like just going out for drinks. I was totally against this. I just personally feel I should provide the food and drinks for events like these.

lol, thanks, maykay! I am patting myself on the back. hehe I've gotten like four PM's about it, with everyone thinking it's just hilarious. Talk about a potentially necessary item that a lot of people forget! I don't think most of us brides would even remember. Nothing like some Durex, Trojan, and Mags to put a smile on your guests' faces. But yes... I'd also steer clear of parents/grandparents playing with water balloons at the pool. hehe Perhaps, if you do cheap name tags for each bag with the recipient(s) name on the bag, the room can just deliver it to the corresponding room they're in. Should be easy enough for them. "Name: Jane Durex. Ms. Durex is staying in room 201" I'd totally tip extra if they're passing out the bags and specific ones to assigned rooms, too. hehe Or you can just deliver/hand out the bags yourself, trusty name tag still in place, of course. Have fun! Can't wait to see how everything turned out. Originally Posted by maykaym4 Oh my gosh, that condom idea is AWESOME! Hahaha. That's a really good idea! I wonder if we can only put them in some of the bags and then specify which bags go to which rooms--does anyone know?? I love that condom idea because it's pretty funny AND they might come in handy! I think most of our guests would get a kick out of it...I just wouldn't want to put any in my grandparents' bags. They'd probably be like "Oh look, water balloons!" That's kind of what I was thinking for the postcards, but wasn't sure if everyone would think that would be weird, but it seems more practical to me. First of all, trying to figure out the postage thing and all that. Secondly, where are they going to find a mail drop box in Cancun, anyway? I'm sure the resort might have one, but I wouldn't want our guests searching for an hour over that entire huge resort to find a dropbox. I am definitely going to go with your idea! Especially since we have a bunch of leftover personalized postcard stamps from our save the dates (also ordered from Zazzle). I just love Zazzle, apparently! Thanks for all the ideas, Vettiebean!

LOL!! All inclusive, unlimited alcohol, wedding, romance in the air, lonely singles surrounded by couples, beach, did I mention alcohol? ... I'm just sayin! hehe You never know, it may definitely come in handy for some guests! I'm actually not doing bags for guests. We don't expect many guests at all, so we're doing cigars, sarongs, maybe something else for our small group. However, I will provide a list of things to pack ... and yes, I will include condoms on the list! I've said before in other threads, but my guests (esp the single ones) won't appreciate the bags much. Great idea for the right group of people, just not our group lol

In running through this thread, I noticed that some people were saying salons at the mall/nail places put in extensions for about $30 and they last about two weeks. I feel this is weird/conflicting because I've been seeing quotes for eyelash extensions which cost upwards of $300, and last 4-6 weeks. From what I'm seeing, the first week, a few of them will fall out with your natural lash schedule (they fall out/grow back on a schedule). And after a few weeks, you're supposed to do a refill. Can someone out there verify this info is accurate? Or, if the $30 dollar, 2 week extensions exist? (that would be awesome) Last, my dear brides, can someone give me a suggestion on where to go in LA for extensions? I am Asian, not a whole lot of eye lash lush going on, so I'd love to have some extensions for my wedding week.

So, I know a lot of brides make kits and add supplies for guests who have too much fun. I mean, let's face it. We're mostly all going to Mexico, somewhere tropical, lots of us are going to all inclusive alcohol flowing resorts, and that jazz. I've seen a lot of people adding hangover stuff, tylenol, etc. Here's something to consider adding: condoms! lol No, seriously though. It's a tropical vacation, lots of alcohol, a wedding... it's been known to happen. Condoms may seriously come in handy for some of your guests. I know that most of my guests are couples, but not ALL of them are... just some food for thought.

Okay, first the funny part, then the post card part. Funny part--your "too much fun" kit, which is an adorable idea that I see a lot of brides do, totally made me laugh bc I read off the list of items you included and for some reason, "too much fun" made me think, "OH! CONDOMS!" lol... People may think what they like, but not ALL of my guests are couples, and for some reason, that's just what popped in my head! You're in Cancun! You're at a wedding! It's been known to happen... just a thought. lol For postcards, maybe your guests can send them back to you from the states. I know it wont have the cool international postage stamps on them, but some people may not even fill out the cards until the trip is over. I know I usually wait until trips are over so I can touch on key/funny moments. Airports actually have letter drop boxes for mail, so ur guests could even mail them out as soon as they land back in the states from the trip.

Strategically, methodically, obsessively planning on bandeau bikinis for the first four days prior to the wedding. lol I do not want tan lines! SPF 100 (seriously, Walgreens carries it's own knock off version of Neutrogena) is highly recommended. I don't burn, I just tan VERY easily. But future hubby is reminiscent of Casper when he veers from the sun too long. I actually think ladies who aren't big up top have more choices in what they wear. This is coming from someone who was a 32B/small C, now 32DD. If you look for a bandeau style which twists in the middle, I think it'll help give the effect of a larger bust (smaller in the middle, bigger on the sides). I wouldn't worry though, I find bandeaus flattering on smaller breasted women.

This is an amazing giveaway and opportunity! Thank you so much for giving back to the community. It means a lot to us brides. Even if I don't win, (I plan on writing out our love story as soon as this post is sent!), I appreciate seeing good people paying it forward.

I'd imagine you'd collect everyone's arrival and departure information. If you have a welcome dinner or a number of your guests will arrive on the same day, then you can get the majority of the bags out of the way by handing them out at dinner. Or do a round of welcome hello's to your guests with the bags or have them all come to your room. I don't plan on giving out our room number to anyone except for the few gfs who will going me on the wedding day getting ready, but it's an option.

Wow.. I'm just all about the bikini thread today!! Hi Sarah! I'm a 32DD, so I can sister size a 34D now and then. (Doesn't fit as well, but hey... sometimes you REALLY want that item, right?) Anyhow, I have the same problem. My dress will be strapless and I'll be in Cancun for four days prior to the big day. VS (you'll likely need size L) and Just Add Water are the two stores I'd recommend. Just Add Water carries several diff brands, so there's a lot to browse. My fave bandeau set is actually from there. And, as I'm sure you know, the separates work best. Good luck hunting!

I see a lot of people mentioning bug spray... does anyone know how the bug situation will be around November? Mosquitoes flock to me like flies to light. Also, any recommendations on a good, non-icky, non-sticky feeling, nicely scented bug spray? I don't think I'm doing OOT bags for my guests, but something I thought was a great idea to include in them was an emergency kit... pepto, immodium, hangover meds, hand sanitizer, etc. Because we'll likely have a small number of guests, we're thinking of other options like cigars (our friends and FI love them), necklaces, sarongs, etc. That's if we have a small number. If the actual guest list expands, then we'll adjust it.

Sold, sold, sold.

hahahaha!!! I know exactly what you mean! That's a HUGE problem with VS bikinis. I went to Vegas and everywhere I went, there was someone wearing what I was wearing... including my bikinis from VS! I agree... I have a deep disdain for that. lol

yeah! best part was that each of my suits from Old Navy was only $15! Definitely a steal compared to some of my other sets