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I agree that with the age difference the dresses really don't need to match. I'd go with the dress that you really love rather than settling for something else.

bubble : belief

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happy : holiday

Quote: Originally Posted by jerseykitten Ugh - rough week - i crashed my car on Thursday the car I just got in September! it started snowing on my way to work, and as soon as I hit the break it started spinning and i ended up in the guardrail. I know i'm ok and that's the most important thing, but I hate the car now and want a truck - the rental car place gave me a nice big SUV so now I feel safer - it snowed again yesterday and it was great to drive! Of course my job ends this week so i won't really HAVE to drive in the snow anymore, but it really scared me. i've never lost control of a car before. Are any of you doing a wedding day timeline? I saw it on one of the other bride's planning threads - she made a postcard on vistaprint that basically laid out the wedding day schedule for everyone. this is one i started - i'm still working on it....thoughts? I'm so glad you're okay! I know exactly what you mean- I did the same thing a few years ago. It's a scary feeling when you lose control of the vehicle like that- I never felt the same way about that car again and ended up trading it in. On a positive note I like your time line. I've been thinking about doing something like this, too, but hadn't thought of doing it on a postcard like that. Great idea! ETA- I totally hate surprises of any kind, really, so the whole bachelor/ bachelorette thing would drive me nuts, too. Although the thought of getting rid of FI for one weekend (don't panic, just one lol) has it's appeal- I could get so much stuff done around the house!

Quote: Originally Posted by luv2sun I'm a little late in the making but have just found all your chit chat - love it! I've always wanted to head to the beach to avoid all the drama associated with a wedding here at home so I'm trying to use the KISS (keep it simple stupid) method haha! Just decided to head to Jamaica in December and so far have 27 people booked so we're very happy! Hope you are all having fun planning your weddings especially as we're heading into the last couple months! Look forward to hearing how things unfold, please share the details! Welcome luv2sun, it's always great to see another April bride. Don't be shy, just jump right in! It sounds like you've pulled your wedding together in no time at all- that's awesome. I've been trying to remember to keep it simple, too, when I find myself getting a bit carried away with ideas. I'm having a pretty good time with planning- especially now that I'm heading into the home stretch. Favours and welcome gifts are ordered, just got a pre-wedding brochure printed up and I'm working on the layout for my programs (I'm going to attempt to DIY for those, wish me luck).

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You have every right to be upset. He put himself in a dangerous situation for no good reason at all. He also should have tried to keep his friend off of the road although he might not have succeeded. My Aunt is permanantly disabled because she was hit by a drunk driver. She was the lucky one, though, her husband and baby daughter didn't make it. I have no respect for anyone who drives after drinking, and I'd be angry at FI if he even remained friends with someone who had done that that much less got in a car with them. So please don't feel like you're being a bitch- if anything you should be way angrier.

I don't think you're wrong. It would be nice if you were able to help her but it sounds as though things are pretty tight for you two. You're also right that it wouldn't be fair to everyone else who is struggling to go. It was a nice thought on his families part to try to find a way for her to go but your FI's sister shouldn't have volunteered you guys like that. I'd let FI deal with it, though, since it's his family. As long as you two are on the same page (and it sounds like you are) I wouldn't worry too much about it.

macaroni : comfort food

Some resorts have free wedding packages that cover the meals as well as the basics for the wedding. Usually you have to have a minimum number of people or meet some other condition, though.

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fat : chubby

I say pay for it all yourself and move on. The way I look at it is "those who pay get some say" so by not relying on them for a contribution you get to call all of the shots. It's wonderful to have parents who want to contribute but at the end of the day they don't have to. I do get that there are deeper issues here with your step siblings and yourself- it sounds like you feel like they've been favoured. Maybe they have been and that does really suck. So I see where you're coming from. Now, though, you get to go ahead with your own life and start your own family (if you want) where this sort of thing doesn't happen. Don't let this stuff overshadow your wedding because it is what it is and there's probably nothing you can do about it, really.

bigfoot : tall tales

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Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 Alright so my first comment is this - I realize that in comparison to how long some of you have waited for the wedding to finally come, the last couple months don't seem like any time at all but seriously, this feels like the biggest game of "Hurry up and WAIT" that I have ever played and I DON'T LIKE IT! LOL! I know that I leave in about 10 weeks and that I've got a few big things to do in that time but it just seems to be dragging out! I feel the same way! I know I still have some things to do but I'm anxious for April. FI and I have been talking about it a lot lately and we're both really looking forward to getting married and to getting away. Especially with the weather lately- I can't wait for some sun. I keep looking over the website for my resort, and reading travel tips online and it's making it worse. I just finished up a pre-wedding brochure to send out to the confirmed guests. I'm going to get Vista print to print it up next week. Is anyone else doing this? If so what are you putting in it? I put in some travel tips, a list of things that will be happening while we're down there and a map of the resort, plus contact info for us. Basically trying to give out some info and get the guests pumped up to go.

in the sky : clouds

I'm not taking much for decorations except a cake topper and some placecards/ placecard holders. I'll bring the favours down too, but other than that I'll just use what the resort has for decorations and flowers.

You're not a bad bride. It sounds like everyone else has way too much invested in your wedding and in what they think you "should" or "shouldn't" do. Please. It's your wedding- they had their own. Come, or don't come, but just shut up about it already. What really stuck with me was the complaints about your dress. Now, I don't know you and haven't seen your dress but unless it's comprised of a pasties/g-string combo they were way out of line. It's not 1865, it's a destination wedding and you never tell a bride that you don't like her dress period. Come on, people! Good luck, and I know it's easier said than done but try not to let them get to you!

thorns : gardening

I'm so sorry that you're going through this- it sounds like the situation is making you really unhappy. I don't mean to make a huge deal about something that could just be regular partying, but do you think he has a drinking problem? It's strange that he's that hungover on such a regular basis- he's not 21 anymore, you know? I think counseling is probably the way to go here. You're relationship is getting poisoned by his behaviour and your (justifiable, IMO) anger about it. Good luck, and again I'm so sorry he's treating you this way.

red - roses

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 oops dbl post.... but p.s. I'm still laughing that I actually mentioned naked tata's in my last post! It's early, and I didn't sleep much last night.... oh man, it's funnier here I think! Lol- never too early for naked tatas