I don't WANT to have an AHR and especially PLAN an AHR. My fiance and I really just want our private wedding with (less than 30 ) family and close friends on the beach and a relaxing vacation. Which we have booked and sent out STDs! However our MOTHERS have other plans. I told my mother that if she wants to PLAN and PAY for an AHR, that is fine, but I want it to be a "surprise." I will give her names of people to invite (she made her list of 50 when I got engaged) and she can do all the planning she wants. I know that if I was involved, it would be too MUCH more time and stress than I'm willing to have. I also like things a certain way, so this way, we won't fight on anything because I won't be involved! I'm not getting married until 2011, so this is still on the back burner, but I know she's ready to start planning. Oh well, i wanted to get that off my chest!