I agree with everyone..you have to put your foot down from the get go. I think it's helpful to show family & friends examples of other DW's through pictures. It shows them that many people do this and gives them an idea of how laid back and simple you'd like your wedding. I found that some people had just never heard of the idea or knew anyone that had their wedding in another country or across the US. Good luck..I'm sure it'll all work out and eventually everyone will get on board!