We have had sooo many issues because we chose to do it down south! First my mother refused to come - it was too expensive. She eventually came/saw the light, ie. its her daughter's wedding and she can/should be there. Then my best friend, MOH said she didn't want to spend the money - eventually she came around as well. My father is an ongoing issue. It has been so stressful and I have cried so much! FI actually threw a plate against a wall at one point (totally out of character). As it stands, our parents and close friends are coming (about 30 people) but my sister and my brothers still refuse to come (it is not about money with any of them, it is a matter of principle - how can she have a wedding where it is inconvenient for us to attend??!).
I have really come to the point where I don't care. It is about FI and I, and those who want to be there, really WANT to be there will come. I couldn't do it without my parents, but since they have come around, I don't care about anyone else. But this has been so stressful and upsetting - I really, REALLY feel for you. You have to decide what is most important to you - and what you are willing to put up to get it. You have to realize that this is YOUR wedding. It is about FI and you. I really, REALLY hope things work out for you!!!