I can honestly say if it were my brother coming home from fighting for our country and I got to see him in person and hug him and know for sure he is ok, I would. You have your plans, stick to them. They can make the decision as it gets closer as to whether or not they can make it. That isn't your problem. But I can tell you now if it were between hanging out with my brother for a day or see my fsil try on a dress my brother would win every time! Sorry, just hang in there and stick to your appt.