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Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa does anyone have a coupon code for vistaprint for free image upload? I think this link might work... http://www.vistaprint.com/vp/welcome...x?xnav=welcome

Quote: Originally Posted by Tlseege Alright... so, out of everything in our oot bags here are the things we know got used... MUGS! Everyone used theirs and the bar tenders really enjoyed them! It was fun! Some people used the totes, but not many actually. Suntan lotion! turns out people forget how hot the sun was! Not to mention it's a lot nicer to carry a little travel size on around with you instead of the big tubes. the SPF lip balm - savior to many, including myself! Shout wipes, those came in handy First aide kits... lots of blisters! Germ X Imodium AD Beach balls, beach buckets & accessories, squirty fish, and little footballs. That's what I saw being used. I'm sure the medications got used too... I just didn't know! Thanks for letting us know! I really wanted to do beachballs/footballs/squirt guns of some sort for fun... but wasn't sure if guests would actually use them. So nice to know! : )

Quote: Originally Posted by [email protected] That's my problem with asking folks to be our BM and GM. In our case, we don't want to burden anyone so that they feel obligate to have to go and spend so much money to fly to another country. So, we've decided to wait for the RSVP's to come in and from those RSVP's, we'll choose our BM and GM and tell them that they will be part of our wedding since they're planning to go anyways. All we're doing is forking up the money to dress them. We tried to avoid asking too early as well! It was semi-easy as half our wedding party is our siblings who will for sure be coming. Plus FI had two friends that we know we could count on and as well as my Maid of Honor. My fourth spot was more difficult... as my top option I knew couldn't really afford it ... and of my others one is trying to get pregnant (and hopefully will be in the near future) and the other was the girl who just cancelled on me. (Who I didn't ask until after she called me upon getting the STD and saying she was so excited, wouldn't miss it and that even her BF was planning already to come). But I think its all working out. I am getting really excited about asking FSIL... so I guess as always, what is meant to be will find a way!

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Quote: Originally Posted by SunBride definitely don't ask the cousin, that looks like a disaster waiting to happen (i.e. annoying you on your wedding day) and definitely ask your future sister in law, it sounds like you guys have been gettign close lately and she will be so honored. If it was me I would completely 100% understand the situation (i.e. you were probably not as close with her when you initially chose your bridesmaids, plus you wanted matching numbers, and now you have an opening and you thought of her because you gusy have gotten closer recently). You got it it right on! If I chose my cousin it would end very badly. I can just imainge freaking out on her on the wedding day and the family drama that would ensue. And I think I will ask my FSIL. When we originally picked the wedding party I wasn't very close to her at all and at that point she wasn't engaged to FI's brother so it would have been weird. I think our relationship has developed rapidly over the past couple of months... so I hope she will be honored. Plus I know she will be coming for sure anyways... so it wouldn't be too much of an additional cost. Now I just need to think of a fun way to ask her. It's hard because I can't do it in person... and probably wouldn't be patient enough to mail a cute card from US to Canada (not sure what turn around time for that is... but may have to look into it). Thanks again everyone! I'll let you know what happens.

We are having everyone book individually as well but mostly due to the fact our guests are coming from different places and staying different lengths of times.

I know lots of people commenting that Riu adds rum unless you specifically ask for the cake without it. But I think I also remember a Riu bride (from a while a while ago) saying they talked to Chandlyn to upgrade the cake and she "outsourced" it. So maybe you will have more options if you want more than just the basic. I didn't htink it was too expensive either. I will try to track down the post... but maybe shoot Chandyln an email?

Yay! That is so exciting! : ) Makes me so jealous... January feels like a long time away. Can't wait to see all your planning pics. Good luck packing and hope you feel better!

**updated page 3** I just recieved a phone call last night from one my BMs saying she would no longer be able to attend due to financial reasons. I am trying to be understanding... as I knew money would be an issue with some of my friends... but its frustrating because I asked her after she told me she was 99% sure she would be able to come. She was the one that assured me the price was extremely reasonable for a week in Jamaica - and that since I gave every enough time our friends should be able to figure it out. I know she is waiting for a ring from her current boyfriend... so I dont know, maybe she is planning on getting it soon and realizing she will have her own wedding to save for Argh. It greatly upset me last night but I am starting to get over it. But of course last week I decided to finally go for it and order my flowers (signed the contract and paid AAs) and started ordering gifts for the bridal party. Now I'm not sure what to do. I am relatively okay with just having 3 girls and having an uneven number bridal party... but my OCD-like tendacies prefers matching. (stupid I know). My mom immediately suggested asking my cousin who wouldn't miss the trip for anything - but she honestly drives me nuts and likes to make everything about her. My first thought was to ask my future, future sister in law (current FI of my FI's brother... they are getting married like 6 months after us). I don't see her that often because she is in Canada... but ever since I started my wedding planning shei has been super supportive and we email back and forth a couple times a week. Now that they are engaged as well, we have been sharing all of our details and plans back and forth for both wedding and nonwedding stuff (future, houses, kids, family vacas, etc). But part of me worries it is to late to ask her... is it rude to ask someone to step up so late? Also, I don't want her to feel that because I asked her, she would have to ask me. (She just sorted out her own bridal party issue). Any thoughts on the proper way to proceed? Is it okay to ask someone so late in the process? Should I just suck it up and be okay with an uneven bridal party? **updated page 3**

Yay! I love when people switch to their first name. : )

Everything looks great! Your drss is absolutely beautiful. Congrats and have fun!

Welcome and Happy Planning : )

Beautiful! It was fun to see all the different pictures and view points of your day. You look gorgeous and so happy!

Beautiful! Congrats.

So pretty! I love the color.

Wow they are all so beautiful! Congrats. Yay

Quote: Originally Posted by Kryztan I find my Big Redneck wedding a hoot! I have only seen it like twice actually by accident. I think that its on CMT I forgot... that is one of my faves to because it is so funny! Even my FI likes to watch that one and gets a kick out of it.

Congrats and Welcome! There is a ton of Cabo info here to help you out... Happy Planning

Quote: Originally Posted by shannon Just wanted to give an update- we have the FI's suit! It's a Calvin Klein tan linen suit-- it just came out a few weeks ago for the spring season-- from Men's Wearhouse. They had a 42 extra long (which was so hard to find!)- unfortunately, it was pretty expensive, but the FI's mom is helping with some of the cost. YAH! Something to mark off list!! Yay! I'm so happy it worked out for you. Bummer it cost more... but at least its now one less thing (and a very important one at that) to worry about!

I'm so sorry... I can only imagine what you may be feeling. As difficult as it may be - I agree with the girls above - try to calm you mind, sit down and just think. Usually when we've lost something... it was when we put it in a random place, out of the norm. Crossing my fingers for you that you make a quick recovery.

Congrats and welcome!

Congrats! Can't wait to hear more about it and see your pics! Love that you checked in. : )

Quote: Originally Posted by Maura ok becky... i hate to say it but for once i am not on your side re:keeping it small. you can't deny his parents the opportunity to come see their son legally married, because even though you dont consider it your real wedding, it IS real. and it is real to your parents and his parents. so it wouldnt be fair to have your parents there and not his. i didnt want to make a big deal of our legal thing either, we are doing it one full month in advance of our DW. but jose's parents really really wanted to be here for the legal one. theyre flying in on a friday and out on a sunday, and coming all the way from mx city to do it. when you get married, you suddenly have this other family to call your own too. you have to do it fairly. just make the best of it and do a nice dinner afterward. you could even do what i'm doing and not do it at the courthouse, find a JP to come to you, go do it in a public garden or somewhere cool and have a friend or two there to take all the pics. it still keeps it small. just remember the parents just want to share in your joy. as for the dilemma of the time frame, i suggest you do it before december. its going to be a clusterfuck trying to get anything legal done around the holidays. why not avoid it if you can? if its just paperwork to you like you say, then it doesnt really matter when you actually do it, right? Thanks for your honesty... but yes I came to realize I was unfair in my original thoughts. So I have come to terms with them coming, and am honestly happy to see them. I love the idea of doing it outside of the courthouse since we are making a deal of it anyways. How did you find one that did it? Did you still go through the courthouse? As for the time... I honestly don't care when we do it. That wasn't so important to me. We actually had thought about doing it now just to speed up the citizenship stuff or possibly get him instate tuition for our last year of school. Due to multiple reasons we decided to wait on the citizenship stuff so we decided to wait for the wedding. I guess one of the main reasons to wait is because it allows me to remain on my parents insurance (medical, dental, eye and car). Once I get married they boot me off and I would have to purchase insurance through our school. I guess in addition to having a few free weeks in December, the insurance reason was why we were waiting until then. It wasn't until his parents mentioned coming and me trying to choose a date did I realize how messy December gets with holidays and what not.

I had thought about it... but I guess we really don't know 100% what we will be walking in to with rotations. They pretty much go non-stop and for the most part will be like a real job, M-F 40 hours a week. We will both be in Duluth this summer for them. But in the Fall I will be in the Twin Cities and Sean will be in Rochester which makes it a bit trickier. We also don't really have any set breaks between then and now. With how this current semester fell.. we didn't get the customary week off between finals and the start of rotations. Which is what we had been counting on to go to Toronto. Now Sean has finals through May 15th then my sis graduates from college in Wisconsin on the 17th and we start rotations the 19th. So May is kind of out. The only other break I know of is Thanksgiving... but I am concerned what type of hours they would hold then. I can't for the life of me find their regular horus or holiday hours... but I would think they are closed weekends and holidays.

Haha love the plot to share pics! : ) Can't wait to see them. Have a wonderful time!