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Anxiously awaiting....LOL....

These look great! You did a wonderful job. Definitely not "bland". The ribbon will probably be a nice touch.

Quote: Originally Posted by KtownBride Here is the list he sent me for 08 prices. Thanks for the info KtownBride!

Quote: Originally Posted by JABride That's so funny. I got the EXACT same comment today ... My girlfriend said that she can't come but will send me a gift (I never even brought up the subject of a gift)... then she asked where is my gift registry since she did not see the info with my invitations. I told her that I did not send registry info with the invitations since my guests presence to my wedding is our present. But I still told her where I was registered (since I initially registered to some stores for those that insisted about giving us gifts). At this point, I am not stressing about it as long as I am marrying the man I love, everything else is just a plus. I know it can be a 'bummer' but the people that truly care will make an effort to be there -- which will make your wedding that more precious ... So glad that someone else has had this happen. And you're right, while it's taken me a few hours to get over all the drama, I now know that in the end all that matters are we do have people who are making the effort to make our day even more special by joining us.

Super cute! Your guests will love them!

I sent an email yesterday asking for 2008 wedding prices. I'm hoping that he responds soon. Has anyone else emailed him? If so, how long did it take for him to respond?

Quote: Originally Posted by foxytv But I wouldn't hold your breath. They told you they were going to come to your DW, didn't they -- but they're not? So, don't expect any $$$ to actually show up. Oh gosh...EXCELLENT point! Hadn't even thought of that.

Funny you said that!! I was going to ask you what color you got but figured/assume that you got the white. But I love the gold, it stands out much more than the white.

Ok got it. Nice choice!!

Quote: Originally Posted by cheeks75 I don't know if I copied the link right, so here it is again:http://www.dressofalifetime.com/occa...085&VIEW=FRONT Hmmm...can't open that link!

Thats definitely annoying! You're good though cuz I would surely, surely find someway to let them know that it's too late & additional guests can not come!! I know you said its FI's dad & uncles, but still, I'd find someway to let them know how annoyed you are!!! Is your FI as mad as you are?

Quote: Originally Posted by Christa Wow, I never heard that one! I say take it! But I know what you are saying, as if your invitation was only to solicit a gift of some sort when in reality you really wanted these people to come celebrate your day. Exactly!! And like I said, I didn't think anything of it at first, but then I had like 3 people say that to me at some point in the conversation. I'm like, do they think that its only about a gift or money. I mean, these are friends so I think they'd know that its all about their presence & not a potential gift. Hell, if it was alllll about money & gifts, we'd be getting married right here at home. My FMIL asked us one day if we realized that we were gonna lose out on gifts/money from people who are coming because their travel expenses were so costly that they probably figured that being there was a gift enough & no one would afford to give us money too! We both told her we could care less about the potential money or gifts that we may be missing out on.

I don't know whether I should be offended or what, but I've heard this too many times in the last 24 hours & can't figure it out. I've been venting about how dissapointed I am with the low turnout for our wedding as its way less than I expected due to everyone initially saying that they would definitely attend. Well its funny that everytime someone has called me to tell me that they can't make it, at some point in the conversation they say..."Well, although I can't make it, I am definitely going to send you a monetary gift". Uhhh....ok! I think to myself "And you say that because....do you think I'm expecting it Do you think that makes up for you not coming" What am I supposed to say to that? All I've been saying is, "that's really not necessary, but thanks for the thought!!!" If my FI knew I was saying that, he'd totally kill me!!! LOL But really, I don't know what to make of it or how to really, really respond!

Quote: Originally Posted by lauren c. the hardest part for me now is deciding what to do about all of these people from this point forward...i'm not mad, just disappointed...example: a college friend is getting married in july. it'll require a night in a hotel, a gift, plus the shower and bachelorette party. now, she didn't come (or even rsvp!!!) to my shower, didn't rsvp to the wedding (she's obviously not coming) and won't be at the bachelorette party (didn't rsvp for that either)...do i even bother to go to her wedding? these are the dilemmas that i'm left with.... My exact dilemma. I have a friend who's destination wedding is a few months after mine & I know that the invitation is on the way. She told me that she couldn't attend my wedding because she's planning for hers & their budget is tight. She even said that her FI told her to come to my wedding by herself if she wanted to, but she said that she felt it wasn't fair to go without him!!!! So, initially I knew I'd be attending her wedding, but since she's not coming to mine, why should I break my neck & budget myself to go to hers

Quote: Originally Posted by melglnh2o If it is THE ONE, then you will know it. Listen to your heart!! When I went dress shopping, I liked one part about the dress (e.g. the top) but didn't love another part (e.g. the train). There was one that was on the top of my list but I didn't love it. Then one day on my lunch break I went to a boutique and found the one. I didn't want to take it off. When you know, you know!! Quote: Originally Posted by cheeks75 I think that you are ABSOLUTELY correct. When I tried on this one, I didn't want to try on anymore. If thats the case then you should definitely get it!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by cheeks75 Yes I have tried it on and I think that I look beautiful in it, but I forgot the camera, so I couldn't take any pictures. I love the dress, but it is so many beautiful dresses out there, that it is so hard to make a decision. Do you think this is "the one" despite all of the other dresses that you've seen??

Ohhh...very, very pretty!!! No negative feedback here!! Have you tried it on yet?

Ohhh...very, very pretty!!! No negative feedback here!! Have you tried it on yet?

Quote: Originally Posted by NYJen Well, in that case, I would suggest you call those people who have not RSVP'd yet. But it's still sooooooo annoying. Brendan and I have had this conversation before. I know I'm the most organized person in our group of friends. In fact, I'm OVERLY organized. And I need to realize that not everyone is like me. I'm the type of person who knows whether or not I'm going to a wedding BEFORE I even get the invitation. So as soon as I get it, I send back the RSVP the next day. That's just the way I am. So it REALLY bothers me when I've given people 4 MONTHS to book their rooms and they haven't. I need to calm down, I feel my face getting all red. Totally, totally feel ya!!! Guess what I've been doing ALLLLLLL DAYYYYY....making freaking phone calls!!!!! And all I'm asking is the same thing, a $100 deposit!!!!! I'm so aggravated & delirious with anger that I just found myself laughing at this entire situation!!!! This is what I'd like to do to a few potential guests.........Would anyone bail me out if I get arrested for assault? Make that multiple counts of assault

Quote: Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 We are all in the same boat. I was just having a paity party about the same things mentioned above! Ok, so I think I just need to vent, so bear with me! Beacuse our weddings are so close together I want us both to feel like we get to enjoy our special day, but I feel like I'm getting stuck with the left-overs! My biggest concern is that we have already made the reservations and are responsible for the total bill! If we don't use 75% of our reserved spots we pay for them anyway! I reserved that number based on all of the yeses we got but when it came time to pay, everyone bailed. Our 1st count of yeses was 80. Thank goodness I only reserved 40! I have to book 30 and am at 19! I am in favor of the traveling BDW wedding support group! Whew! I feel better now! Thanks for "listening" I'm telling you, sometimes things, make that people, really, really suck. I definitely understand where you're coming from, especially in terms of numbers. We have the same problem as we've set up 2 sets of seats to be held on 2 specific flights and we have a contract with the hotel. It's like we're flying by the seat of our pants right now not knowing if we're gonna make our #'s. Please just don't feel like you're getting leftovers. As you said, "your" day is special & you should by all means make the best of "your" day. I'm coming to learn that sometimes you have to stop bending backwards trying to satisfy everyone else and just look out for yourself!

Quote: Originally Posted by Debs [/b] now something like this comes up, and one by one all these friends have 'better things to spend their money on'... 2nd computers, 50" TV's, hot tubs etc. I'm not bitter about this, because it is just showing ME where THEIR priorities are. I think if they were doing the same, I would have made a commitment to be there and I would be there. What does that tell you? TRUE friends are friends forever, not just when it's convinient for them. I think thats been one of my biggest lessons thru this entire ordeal. I didn't think I'd learn it the hard way, but I guess it had to happen! And isn't there some saying that the lessons learned the hard way are the best learned lessons

Quote: Originally Posted by Tlseege I'd love to come, but I have a prior engagement... MY WEDDING! he he, we are date twins! Awww...too bad for that! Good idea, bad timing! LOL

I just complained about the same thing last night. There were a few complaints initially as to why we just couldnt get married at home, but eventually, I thought everyone was on board. While people were excited about traveling with us when we sent out the save-the-dates, now that the time to book has come, I've gotten more people who have backed out than I could have ever imagined. My advice: Do what's best for the 2 of you. It's your wedding, your dream, your life. As these ladies have pointed out to me, you are the one's who matter, not everyone else. You can't make everyone happy so you have to focus on your own happiness.

I actually just had a lightbulb moment!!! HOW ABOUT ALL OF YOU COME TO THE WEDDING To hell with everyone else!!! LOL....LMAO!!! As a matter of fact, I think we need to start a traveling BDW support group. This group could travel around to fellow members weddings!! Personally, I think the idea rocks but I don't know how we'd get our FI's & Hubbys to go along with this.

Welcome Heather. Congratulations on hitting the 2 month mark. Sounds like you are all ready to go!!!