Karen

The article doesn't have the greatest title. And of course trust is the basis of any relationship. I wouldn't want to be with anyone on which I had to "keep a leesh". And there are no guarantees in life. However, what I took away from this article is you can't ever take your spouse or your relationship for granted. And that in any long term relationship, there will be times that are difficult or stagnet. Even the strongest of relationships can challenged regardless of how much you love or trust each other. But there are steps you can take to keep things fresh and to keep communication healthy.

This is a pretty good article with a lot of good tips. I'm staggered by the stats - %60 of men and and %40 of women will have an affair sometime during their marriage in America. Just goes to show....Happy Marriages don't just happen....they take work, dedication and of course love. = ) 8 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage -- Yahoo! Personals

Congrats Amy! He is beautiful!

I'm three years older than Jay. It's never really been a factor in our relationship. In fact, Jay is the most mature and grounded guy I have ever been with. In the past, I mostly dated guys older than me or my same age I would say I'm less mature and more naive than Jay is. I keep insisting that I'm a Cougar but Jay says I don't meet the criteria. = ( Oh well.

We don't have too much planned other than work today and Monday The weather isn't too summery anyhow right now in good ol' Upstate NY.

Jay and I moved in together a couple of months after we got engaged (about 4 months before our wedding). We had been dating for 2 years when we moved in together. I'm really happy that we did everything when and how we did. Prior to moving in together, we each maintained our own apratments and would see each other several times a week. I never felt like I had to live with Jay to see if we could be compatible living together. I just knew we would. I didn't want to rush our dating stage of our relationship. There is something so nice about your boyfriend picking you up for a date, about him not seeing you get ready to go out, and not having to make practical decisions together. Some of the mystery disappears when you move in together so It was nice that we courted for a bit. I love living with Jay but I also really loved living by myself. I wanted to savor that because I knew in a few years with children I'd be lucky if I go to the bathroom by myself. IMHO, I think everyone should live alone before getting married as it is equally important to know yourself as it is to know the other person before you get married. Of course there is no pat answer that will fit every couple or every person

Have a great time and enjoy!!!

I'm 35 edging up on 36 and I was married last July. I was married before so I'm not sure if it's that or my age, but I did not want a big show nor did I want stress. I just wanted to get marrried, be relaxed, and have fun. I also didn't want a long engagement. We were married within 6 months of being engaged. DWs are perfect for that because a lot of the work is done for you by your WC. We basiclly just showed up. So I couldn't tell if I was too old to care about a lot of wedding stuff or if I had the "been there done that" attidude of a 2nd time bride.

Happy Anniversary!!! Hope you and Brian have a wonderful day!

I was so happy DC won. However, I do think things have been a bit lackluster on AI for the past couple of years.

One of my guide books said that he ATM's in Jamaica aren't dependable. I was hoping to get Jamaican $ this way as it's usually the safest way to get money at the best exchange rate. Does anyone know what he deal is with ATM's in Jamaica? We are going to Ocho Rios.

If no one is into the harbor cruise we will probally just get to NYC in time to meet up at Swankys at 2:30. It doesn't look like we will be staying over.

Ann, your little girl is beautiful! And so are you! You look so great especially with everything you went through!

GET THE VIDEO!!! You won't even notice the video. You will have so much adreneline and happiness that it won't even bother you. And if it does make you a little tense, have some champagne. Jay hates hates videos and we were both hamming it up because we were just so happy and a wee bit tipsy. These are meories you will want to share with your children....so get it!!!

If you don't do a rehearsal dinner, the wedding police will get ya! lol. Just kidding. Definiately do what you want and what is a good fit for you, your FI, and your budget. I love the idea of everyone meeting up for welcome drinks in lieu of a rehearsal dinner. Everyone gets to meet and mingle. If you are at an AI, just pick a bar to meet up at and there you go! No extra costs. There is usually at least one bar at the resort which isn't as busy as the other ones. Meet at that one for a more privacy.

Happy belated birthday Rachelle!!! Hope your day was wonderful!

I applaud the decision. I never understood the opposition to two people wanting to commit to each other and become family regardless of their sexual orientation.

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild Question - do the Mets & Yankees both play in NYC? Yep. Yankee Stadium is in Da Bronx. The Mets play in Shea Stadium in Flushing, Queens.

YANKEES RULE!!! When I was single, One of my prerequisites for my dream man was that he be a Yankees fan everything else was negotioable. I dated a Mets fan once and it just didn't work. Then I met DH a short time later and the rest is history. My parents and one of my best friends are Boston fans. It's hillarious that Jay's in-laws are Red Sux fans. My mom and Jay tease each other all the time. We always joke around that our kids can be any profession, any religion, or date anyone they choose but there's no way our kids will ever be red sox fans. lol

I have no idea if it would be a viable option, but I bet Amsterdam would be a fun place to party.

lol. I have no suggestions but I just want to say I want a "piss up"! lol. But NYC is a lot of fun!!!! Great place for a piss up. Can you tell I just like saying piss up? lol

I am so so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I agree with everyone else. Don't worry about your wedding right now. Just focus on taking care of yourself and your family.

Thanks Christine for organizing this. I will make my donation later today.

I don't think it sets in immediately after the wedding because you still have thank you notes, photography stuff, etc. It actually was realy nice to have some down time. I really didn't experiance that until after the holidays as I was MOH in my friend's DW in September and we took a trip in January.

I might be wrong here but I'm pretty sure there's no real overt difference between a legal and symbolic ceremony in terms of the content of the ceremony (i.e. what is said). The only difference is that you don't have to pay for marriage license in Mexico or meet oher requirements such as blood tests or residency requirements. This brings costs down some. You may have a little more freedom regarding the content (i.e. involving spiritual or religious themes). And the officient doesn't have to be a judge because it's not a legal ceremony.