Thank you ladies for your messages....
I'm not sure why Erik is acting this way...but since we are having dinner with them this weekend we will talk.
Maybe after dinner so there is no anger or tension throughout dinner.
It does have to be done.
Erik just doesn't want to have another million people show up or Crash the wedding. This is what he will think will happen, knowing that his family members will take it as advantage for a vacation.
When we do talk to his parents I will EMPHASIZE that we only want his mom,dad,brother, sister-n-law, and grandmother there only and if they have a problem with that then not come.....
I will also mention that we will have a party when we get back, so everyone can come.
We do have to tell his family and we will do it this weekend....I will also tell them that we are going to pay for this and not want them to contribute so they don't think they can invite others....
(in actuality my mom is helping us pay for this small wedding of 15 people)