DreaW

thanks girls.... I talked to Erik and basically he said that I had to talk to her. So she and I will have a talk when I come back from San Francisco this weekend. I'm going to show her the cost of the food and beverage that we are going to have and the amount of people we can have at ceremony and reception location at Casa Madrona....then I'm going to tell her that to make it even, we will not have a rehersal, nor rehersal dinner so she then can pay for half of the guest list (food and beverage with 20% gratuity and 7.75% tax) and my mom will pay for her half (food and beverage with 20 % and 7.75%) (which my mom budgeted 40 people.... So my mom will pay for her 40 people (all Ramirez's) and Carol will pay for her 40+ people (all Wade's). We'll see if Carol (FMIL) will like this proposition....if not I'm going to tell her to go back to original idea of 20 and 20 and my mom will pay all. I'll let you know what happens after this weekend. Cross your fingers that it goes well. oh yeah I'm going to tell her she needs to help with extra invitations if she chooses choice #1 (more guest=split down middle) drea

Quote: Originally Posted by Tlseege I think finding the prices sounds like a great idea. Not only will you be able to tell the FMIL that she has to pay, but you can tell her WHAT she has to pay. A lot of times people are fully willing to pay... until they see how big the bill actually is. Don't forget to charge her for invitation costs too. Those can add up quickly. Yeah I'm going to charge her for invitations and food. Will see what happens....

Quote: Originally Posted by Tlseege Hmm. Why was Erik so quite? You don't think that his mom pressured him into cancelling Cabo do you? I really don't know...Going to talk to him tonight.

Just called my mom and she says that we should just wait till we get a reponse from in house coordinator about the prices if we use the restaurant menus instead of wedding package menus that they have (in house coordinator suggested this) So if price is way over her budget then I'm going to call FMIL and tell her that either she pays for half of guest at wedding and my mom pays for the our half or we go back to just 20 on FMIL side and 20 on my side. so I have to wait till after this weekend.

I tried to have Erik step up and tell his parents that it needs to be small last night when we were at dinner but instead he sat at the table at the restaurant all curled up and very very quiet....he was even quiet when we left the restaurant. I know he's the one who said that he wanted a small wedding. I'm going to talk to him tonight. If he decides to not tell his mom then what I'm going to do is drive over to his mom's house either tonight or tomorrow and sit down with Carol and tell her that if she really wants to invite more people she is going to have to pay for her whole half of the wedding guest and my mom will pay for her half the wedding guest. Hopefully this will make her see that my mom will not pay for her 20 people when Carol wants to invite more and will pay the difference. I'm going to tell her that it's not fair for my mom, so this will be the only way unless we go back to the original 40 people only and my mom will pay for whole reception. i just don't know what to do. If she gets pissed I don't care at this point.

Ok so everyone knows on this forum that I've decided to change the date of my wedding to Sept. 1, 2007 instead of having it on June/July of 2008. We also decided to have wedding in Sausalito, CA. (near San Francisco) and have decided to have a max of 40 guests (that includes Erik and me). Well...... I go out to dinner dinner last night with Erik's family (it was his cousin's b-day) and Erik's mom starts the conversation about the wedding and how she is pissed (joking) that she now doesn't have enough time to loose weight for her outfit. So we are all laughing and having a good time then she blurts out that she will be sending invitations to her whole family. I just look at her and stared. Then said.....but I'm only giving you 18 invitations and that we are only having 40 people (20 on her side, 20 on mine) and that my mom has a budget and can't go over the amount of people. Well FMIL then says that " oh don't worry I'll pay for the extra people that will come". I'm just looking at her in awe....mind you, she was the one that suggested we do a small wedding and only invite the most important people we want there....and now she's throwing this at me. Well later I go and call my mom and she ends up saying that's fine but reminding me to remind her that FMIL has to pay for the extra people she invites (that was last night). well this morning I call her and she says she is kind of dissappointed because now most of the guest are going to be from erik's side and not mine. So I tell we should send invites to all of our people and most likely not all will come since we are doing an adult only wedding and it's on labor day weekend and it's such short notice. But she is worried that it will come out to being a lot of people and she only has a small budget. What do I do!!!!! Freaking out here.... I HATE WEDDINGS

Quote: Originally Posted by A10CALGAL Drea, My seamstress wanted me to begin the process one month prior to the wedding date - which kind of freaked me out, but worked out perfectly. At the time I was her only bride though, as she's trying to retire...I would get started finding a seamstress & asking their opinion on timeline ASAP! Thanks Christa, I'll call my seamstress that I know and ask, hmmm I should just go pick up the dress that's at my fmil house and then take it to seamstress so she can see it.

one more question.... How long does it take to alter your dress? Wedding is coming up soon (almost 2 months away) and haven't done this yet...haven't lost weight either...I thought I would have a lot of time to do this but nope... Need to go to gym!!!!

Hi girls, Ok title seems kind of confusing, so let me try to explain, We decided to get more than one main entree for the main course but the inhouse banquet Coordinator says she will need a exact head count for each person and what they would like to eat. So how do I go about asking guest (on the invitation) if they want the chicken, the beef, or the fish? and make sure they return it with RSVP or call me with answer? Ok side note, since we moved this wedding to Sept. 1 I've been silently freaking out....I need to get invitations out (getting simple ones made from Costco), I need to find accomedations for guests in San Fran (I asked my mom and FMIL to make me a list of hotels they've found and we'll write that on the accomedation card for invites), Still need to sign contract for hotel (but it is already reserved under my name for that date already), My mom is thinking of getting the flowers shipped from Costco, the only thing is that they ship the flowers two days prior to wedding date (not the day of) and now I'm worried my roses will not be fresh on Sat. but my mom says not to worry. We still need place cards and I really like Sarah's idea with candles and names on them but don't know if I can make them myself....can you buy them? Or Sarah if you read this can you make them for me and I'll pay you (not joking LOL). I have a lot of stuff to do in such a short time....include dress alteration, and still getting bridesmaids dress and groomsmen outfits and grooms outfit.... Basically everything. Shoot and I thought I was so prepared for this....UGH!!!!!! sorry for freaking out there....back to my original question of invitation...oh yeah we are know having 40 people max at this wedding.

Sarah, that was so beautiful...I was crying during the whole thing. Congratulations! drea

Quote: Originally Posted by dragonfly I'm curious you girls talk alot of engagement photo shoots. Is this an American thing? I don't know of any one who does this here in the GTA, certainly none of my friends, and I don't hear talk of this practice (the little pic in the local newspaper doesn't count) anywhere I go. I can barely afford what I budgeted for the wedding photo's, I can't imagine throwing engagement pics in the mix lol. Kelly~ Kelly, I'm not sure about others but I wanted engagement photos originally for my save the dates I was going to use for my cabo wedding (when I was planning to have wedding in Cabo). Also you can use those photos for pictures that everyone can look at, at the wedding. I'm now not having my wedding at Cabo instead I'm having it in Sausalito, CA. in roughly 2 months....I really wanted Cabo pics and since we are going there for vacation (it really was supposed to be for vendor visit) I told Erik I wanted my beach pics....so he agreed and now we are having e-pics....which I'll show at my wedding

Quote: Originally Posted by JENESIS How is the food? take a look at their website: Brasil Steak House Restaurant - Cabo San Lucas, Los Cabos, Mexico coupon: ESSV: CabosanlucasDining.com Coupons hope that helps, I believe they had a personnal website but I don't remember the address Sorry.

I totally recommend Brazil Steakhouse. They are an all you can eat place. the food is delicious, I didn't want to stop eating. If I was going to have my wedding in Cabo I would totally eat there. ERik and I love the place, good ambiance, food and servious. We go there everytime we are there in Cabo. So yup this July we are so there LOL if you have any other questions feel free to ask me.

I'm so sorry, that sucks. Hope you feel better soon

Courtney, I believe most car rental shops there is an age limit of 25 or older, Make sure you read their restrictions. I know Enterprise you have to be 25 or older I believe Budget rent a car is the same. Just make sure you ask.

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild Uh-oh don't tempt me...I usually go up there for labor day anyway. If I'm there I'll crash your wedding! I'll eat before I get there and bring my own liquor to keep costs down, I know how it is!! LOL! LOL Sure totally show up...really fine with me

Quote: Originally Posted by host hehe...we may lurk...it is so close by for us. here is another place: HOME****** ROOMS***** WEDDINGS******* DINING******* HISTORY Tammy you guys are totally welcome to come by. I also checked Alta mira and they are currently not taking any weddings.

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild OMG you read my mind! My civil ceremony is in 2 days and I was just going to ask you guys what I need to bring. If we can we'll just ask the judge to skip the rings part. In fact we have no readings or vows either. I just need the darn paper so I can get the free champagne and bath robes on my honeymoon!! I'm calling tomorrow to ask them what I need, but I think it's fairly simple. There are like 6 courthouses in L.A. that schedule them every 15 minutes so it can't be too involved. Jamy you have to take pictures!!!! Do you need a witness? I can stop by. LOL

Thanks girls.... Hmmm Jamy and Tammy do you know of any good photographers in San Fran?

I haven't exercized in weeks...well, I actually went to gym once on Thursday...but that's it.

hmmmm... Well since I moved my wedding to sept. now then I wonder if she can do my dress. I have a seamstress here in Orange County but haven't asked her about my dress yet. So I don't mind the trek to SD. Do you think she can do it soon?

love the makeup....it does make your eyes pop.

happy birthday rachelle

jamy they're really cute. drea

So I've decided to stay with Manuel, He has been dealing with all my phone calls and emails....i feel sorry for him LOL. He also is willing to change date of engagement photo shoot to July 29th, since Erik might want to stay in La Paz a little longer. So we're meeting him July 29th at 9am in cabo and later that day we leave back to LA at 5:21pm so I'm thinking head to airport around 3pm or so. I believe he will send me all photos and dvd by UPS when he finishes with them, since we are leaving that day. Now I have to get off of work and head to bank to transfer him $250. Horray, I'm excited. Now I have to find a good photographer who can do my Sept. 1 wedding, and it's short notice too. I'll see if Leigh is available. drea