The way I see it, I'm kinda hoping "certain" people complain enough about this being selfish or "expensive" just so they are the ones to turn my invitation down vs me not inviting them and me coming off like the bad guy
We are looking more into hosting a nice dinner/party here for our friends that cant afford to go, or don't like the idea.
Were thinking of making a video during our stay to watch at the party when we return.
So when someone complains about it- say hey we will be doing a nice dinner and watching a video of the trip, and our wedding video, so its not like you will miss everything.
Its going to cost us even more than we wanted to spend, but we thought it would be nice for people who REALLY can't make it due to work/money related issues, and it's an nice thing to offer people who complain about it all the time!
That's a perfect way of thinking about it. Most of my family goes on individual family vaca yearly so the important ones won't have a problem with it...the rest can just come to a BBQ we can have when we get back lol
This is what got us to do a destination wedding to begin with!! lol his entire family always goes on vacation this time of year, and my family needs it! any good friends is pretty much an added bonus. Still trying to think of a good "AHR idea though.