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#1 LoriGran

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Posted 28 May 2014 - 08:40 AM

Ok Ladies!! I need to know if I should be pissed off or am I just over reacting and it is not a big deal.


I am getting married in Mexico and have 57 guests attending. I just found out that one of my guests took the liberty to invite her girlfriends (and I'm assumming their significant others) to Mexico during my wedding weekend. I understand a resort is a public place and anyone is entitled to go HOWEVER I feel that it is inappropriate to invite your friends knowing you are going there for an event!!!


Don't know what do you ladies think? Should I be pissed or just let it go? :huh:

#2 forevertogether

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Posted 28 May 2014 - 08:45 AM

Personally I think it's extremely rude that she didn't at least ask you first! I don't blame you one bit for being pissed!

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#3 rvalenka

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Posted 28 May 2014 - 08:49 AM

I think it's very rude.
Are they people you know? I think that would make it even more awkward.

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#4 Wedding2014

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 08:52 AM

    So rude ! I can see a person bringing ONE guest but that's all
    And they should include that in the invite or ask you first

    #5 LoriGran

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 09:30 AM

    Thanks, I thought perhaps I was over reacting but I can't get over on how can someone do that! She still hasn't had the courtesy to tell me! I only found out because one of the groomsmens' girlfriend is part of that group of girls (I'm sure she had a say on inviting them too) and the groomsmen told my FI.


    I would never do something like that as a guest to a destination wedding! And I will make sure that they have ABSOLUTELY  no part in any of the events I have planned that weekend, including the welcome dinner and the VIP section of the club for the after party. They also better not think they will crash the wedding either! :angry:

    #6 csho

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 10:59 AM

    Does she plan to bring them to the wedding? Or are they just going for the week? I had a friend who invited their friends to join them for the week... its their vacation and wanted to vacation together. They didn't participate in the wedding or wedding events but my friends always showed up to our events. It wasn't a big deal at all. I don't want to be rude or anything but I think you might be over reacting I'd just make sure they understand that they are not invited to the wedding and/or wedding related events. Our friends, friends booked under our group and it was great because it added to our group total which allowed us to have another additional person for free!

    Edited by csho, 28 May 2014 - 11:03 AM.

    #7 kmk2016

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 12:09 PM

    If one of the friends she invited is a groomsman's girlfriend it makes a bit more sense... They may have wanted to enjoy a bit of time as a couple on a holiday in addition to the wedding. I agree- as long as they don't attend any of the wedding related events, I wouldn't let it bother you. If the groomsman asks to have his gf attend events alongside him/ then that's a discussion you need to discuss with your FI ahead of time and let him handle it (however you both decide).

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    #8 Nybride525

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 02:34 PM

    I am in the early stages and a pretty laidback person so I don't think I'd care as long as she doesn't think they will be guests of the wedding. I only plan on having wedding events the day of....sure we will all hang out and stuff at the resort but I feel everyone is going to be making this their vacation too so why not combine it with a girls getaway too....maybe I'm just too laid back lol


    #9 kellymiller

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    Posted 28 May 2014 - 02:53 PM

    I would be pissed! You need to make it clear that they cannot attend any wedding events!

    #10 kirab22

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      Posted 28 May 2014 - 03:58 PM

      I can see why you would be upset. However, this is your guests vacation also. I have a similar situation where my bridesmaids husbands whole entire family is coming to the resort during our wedding. I can't expect the whole trip to be all about me and all about my wedding when they spent that kind of money. I did however make it clear that they can come spend time with us, but not come to the wedding.

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