I have a bit of a unique situation and I am wondering if anyone else has this going on.
We both have large families and multiple groups of friends. We are having the DW (4/24/14) and a semi formal AHR (6/14/14) to include (225-240 people). We are not planning to do formal invitiations for the DW. We are planning to just do a Save the Date for the AHR. We have the unique situation where we have several groups that we prefer DO NOT attend the DW (cousins, friends that drink a lot, annoying relatives, etc.). We know that the very immediate family of parents, siblings and spouses, neices and nephews will be attending as well as a few of ours and our parents very "best friends". These people we are in regular contact with and have just been telling them the information as we receive it from the travel agent, etc. I expect with this immediate group that we will have approximately 30-50 people at the DW. My concern is what to do with the AHR. I have heard many people saying that they showed their wedding video, had a slideshow of photos, etc for the guests that could not attend. i feel like I can't do that because the guests that didn't attend, (while they may not have anyway), they may not have because they were not technically invited.
Does anyone else have something similar to this?
I have gone back and forth and also considered inviting all 250 guests to the destination wedding, but really can't take the chance that it could grow to be 150 people traveling to Mexico with me. I feel like the immediate family, very close friend option is a better choice but I don't know how to handle that with the formal AHR.