Is it tacky to put a limit on our guest count?

[AnaSteele58]

FI and I (along with everyone else) are on a budget. We are are paying for the wedding ourselves while saving to buy our first home. With efforts to stay on track with our budget, I am considering putting a limit on our guest count. Is that tacky? With our budget we can comfortably host 30 people. Anything over 30 will put a strain on our finances. What is your opinion on this touchy subject?

[tkuzma]

This is not tacky at all!  Wedding are ridiculously expensive and especially since they are only 1 day- most definitely not worth going into debt for!  Planning a wedding is also stressful enough without having to worry how you are going to be able to pay for more than you know you can afford.  Your family and true friends will understand!  A party with 30 of your nearest and dearest will be absolutely lovely!

[hessina85]

I say you don't have to please no one if that's your cut off stick to it its nor tacky and besides its your money you both are spending and its about you two do what's best for you

[AnaSteele58]

Thanks ladies. We would love for everyone to come...it's just not in our budget.

[Traci7642]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it either.  And on the bright-side, if they all know this prior to booking, it will have everyone that really wants to go book asap so you'll have a more solid number in advance to plan around.  I'm afraid we're going to get last minute bookings that'll throw off our OOT bags and table seatings.  Good luck!

[AnaSteele58]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it either.  And on the bright-side, if they all know this prior to booking, it will have everyone that really wants to go book asap so you'll have a more solid number in advance to plan around.  I'm afraid we're going to get last minute bookings that'll throw off our OOT bags and table seatings.  Good luck!

Good point. I think I will let everyone know up front that 30 is our max. That should cut down on the drama later on.

[WeddingCancun]

Originally Posted by AnaSteele58 

 

FI and I (along with everyone else) are on a budget. We are are paying for the wedding ourselves while saving to buy our first home. With efforts to stay on track with our budget, I am considering putting a limit on our guest count. Is that tacky? With our budget we can comfortably host 30 people. Anything over 30 will put a strain on our finances.

 

What is your opinion on this touchy subject?

 

it’s fine to limit the guest list to immediate family, you can hosting a separate “cocktail party" at your town. So, you should not feel guilty at all!

[MsFaszion]

I don't think it's tacky.  It's your wedding and you have to do ONLY what works for you and your honey.  I'm not inviting a heap load of folks to my wedding due to the fact that I can't afford to and even if I could I've been down that road already.

[KWandCM]

I definitely don't think it is tacky. People understand when you're doing a small, intimate wedding. We are doing immediate family only-- probably between 10-15 people. 

[AnaSteele58]

Thanks ladies for the feedback. I makes me feel better about the decision we've made.