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I figured we would only have 10 couples, but now we have almost 60 people going! I sent out the STD's early and some people are still considering, but as the other posters said...the ones you expect to come won't and the ones you don't expect will! That def has happened to me! 

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Somebody told me" your true friends will show up at your wedding and your parents funderal", and that is totally proving true for us. Friends we thought might have a more difficult time making it didn't even blink when we told them our plans, and they have been so awesome and supportive for dealing with all the other people who are not making the effort

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My family and many of my friends seem to be pretty excited and already pestering us to see when they can put down deposits etc.. but my FI's family and friends seem a lot less enthused. I will feel really bad for him if they dont come through for him. He comes from a smaller family anyway, so he knew his "side" would be on the light side.. but I just don't want him to sad inside that we chose to do a DW. (It's my second wedding, his first... so it's a big deal for him- and I know he would be heartbroken) I think he's worried about the guys he is asking to be groomsmen- and that they may say no because they dont want to spend the money to attend.

 

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I was worried at first and expected about 30 guests because the costs & people just have other commitments. Well, we have 50 guests confirmed as of yesterday. Two more just booked yesterday afternoon. We have to keep readjusting our budget and the number is more than we imagined so we're thrilled.

 

When I was concerned in the beginning, people kept telling me "The important people in your lives who are meant to be there, will. You can't worry about the rest." It's so true!

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We thought we would have 30 guests max, well we have 65 total. We even had people phoning us that weren't invited asking if they could come.

 

Our big day is next week, May 2nd! We are beyond excited and so is the whole group.

 

We didn't think that there would be many from my FI's family attending, well guess what they out number my family.

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Sounds like part of it is anxiety that comes along with being a bride.

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People we thought for sure wouldn't come were the first ones to book!  We thought we would maybe get 20-30 people.  Were at 55 now! 

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I'm worried my fiances friends won't come bc they don't even have passports so it's going to take extra effort

 

 

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We invited 106 but only have 25 attending. It's sad but what can you do? We knew a lot wouldn't be able to make it but you always hope that with a years notice people can get it together.

 

I actually had a good friend and bridesmaid drop out of everything, which was a huge disappointment. She is getting married this summer and dealing with immigration issues, but still. It's tough.

 

Although three co-workers (one previous, 2 current) are coming, which is so surprising.

 

I always try to remember that once the day arrives, I'll be so happy and thankful to everyone who was able to make it. That's what brides always come back and say; you never think about who didn't come!

 

 

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