Originally Posted by Kal520
I need some help with an etiquette question everyone please weigh in if you have opinion one way or the other, thanks!
So I originally was planning on not having a shower whatsoever due to it being akward as I didn't invite everyone to our wedding in Mexico just our nearest and dearest friends and family. That would have left me with just a few people to invite (less than 20) and I didn't want to ask those women to get a gift as many of them were going on the trip and paying so much for that, and the people who were not invited to Mexico and only to our at home reception wouldn't be technically going to a "wedding" only a wedding reception, so I felt inviting them to a shower would have been weird. I have had a lot of people lately tell me to just invite anyone whether they are invited to either, and now have a close friend wanting to throw a shower for me which is amazing, and I really want to say yes but it is a sticky situation. Should I have the shower and invite everyone, not have the shower at all, or only invite the people invited to our actual wedding in Mexico and make it a super small thing? As you can tell I need major advice!! Help!
I was in this boat and talked to my family about it, and they were mad I was thinking of NOT having a shower! We're doing the same thing - brunch after at home - where everyone can come. You know your family and friends best, but I say go for it.