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Did you manage to get any alone time after your destination wedding?

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Maybe this is a stupid question! If most of my guests will be staying at the all inclusive hotel im choosing to get married in and most likely staying before and after the wedding at the hotel...how can i manage one day of alone time with my new husband the day after the wedding? Since beaches and pools and restaurants are public areas where everybody goes.

 

Of course i don't want to ditch my friends and family who've made such an effort to come...but id like our first day as newly weds to just be the two of us. I can't tell if thats selfish? Or people will completely understand? I can just imagine going to a restaurant and seeing people at the table...and then it would feel odd walking to a different one. I know the other days we will be doing everything as a group!

 

Or do good manners dictate we wait until we get home for our alone time? Part of me thinks one day isnt unreasonable, and part of me doesnt want to seem rude!

 

Any advice would be much appreciated!

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My Fiance and I were concerned about this as well.  What we decided to do was to switch over to another hotel for our "honeymoon." We will be staying at our wedding hotel for 5 nights, and then we'll switch to the other hotel for our honeymoon for another 5 nights. Hope this helps!

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My husband and I went on a full day excursion to Xel-Ha.  This allowed us to relax and do some fun and exciting things just as a couple.  It was really lovely.

 

Depending on where you're going, you can also maybe schedule a trash the dress session at a different beach.  For instance, the couple that we photographed last week we took to a beach club in Tulum instead of doing the trash the dress at the resort.  We then gave them the option of staying there and relaxing all day.  It was only a $20 cab ride, so it's not as expensive as an excursion and it allows for complete relaxation!

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We just returned from our week vacation for our wedding (wasn't really like a vacation though!).  Like you, I was looking forward to spending some alone time with my husband after our wedding day.  Lets just say we hardly had any alone time the entire week, especially after the wedding.  I regret not staying for another week, or even a few days, at the resort, after our guests left so we could enjoy some alone time as husband and wife.  I don't think its selfish to want to spend time together, and I don't think your guests will be upset about it, but then again they did travel along ways and spend alot of money, so we felt somewhat guilty for spending time alone.

 

I say if possibly stay for some extra time after all your guests leave, or change resorts.  We didn't do this so instead we are going to take a vacation with just the two of us sometime soon.



 

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Thats exactly it - this vague feeling of guilt that im supposed to be available to everybody all the time! im thinking about encouraging people to spend time with us before the wedding...then 2 days after wedding we will have mini honeymoon of a few nights at a different resort. It means if they want to stay on at our resort they can, and we wont be hiding in corners trying to have alone time! i think 2-3 nights will  be perfect...then we'll fly home! I guess thats ok? Say goodbyes day after wedding and then leave? I hope so anyway...not sure i can think about this anymore when there are so many other pressing issues!

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I think thats a great idea, even a few days of alone till will make a huge difference! And your guests Im sure will totally understand.

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I would love some alone time with my new husband! Unfortunately there is no way around this for us because our 21 month old son will be there. We are hopefully planning a few days somewhere during the summer, so we can get that time. I would think for you the only way to be truly alone is to leave the resort, wether for the day or moving somewhere else entirely. You are not going to be able to just ignore your guests if you see them around, you know? That's strange.

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I'm trying to figure this out, as well.  I like the solution of switching hotels and going to a different area for a day or two, if guests are remaining at the resort after your wedding.  If you have guests come down the week before the wedding, they may all choose to leave the day after the wedding, in which case you could just stay behind an extra couple nights. 

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Originally Posted by Vanessa56 View Post

My Fiance and I were concerned about this as well.  What we decided to do was to switch over to another hotel for our "honeymoon." We will be staying at our wedding hotel for 5 nights, and then we'll switch to the other hotel for our honeymoon for another 5 nights. Hope this h

This is exactly what I'm hoping to do=)

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