Yeah the vendor fees are a killer, I'm paying for day passes for my photographers, and a night at the hotel for both my DJ and videographer and having the flowers dropped off all to avoid vendor fees. lol It's like a game trying to see how to pay the cheapest fee to get the vendors you actually want. I would have gone with the resort vendors but honestly they were very expensive, communication wasn't the best and the quality just didn't match to what I could find outside of the hotel. So even if i end up paying what I would have paid for their vendors at least I know I got the best and it was the vendor I wanted and didn't settle for theirs just because that was the only option. It is my wedding after all so I didn't want to settle. haha I mean our wedding....my fiance is just as picky as me and didn't like any of the hotel vendors.
Yeah, we're doing the same. I was really unimpressed with the Palace vendors for the prices. We're going to pay the vendor fee for our photographer/videographer, but we're telling BP that theyre under one company and hoping to pay it just once. We hired the same DJ as you but I'm not sure if we're just going to just pay his vendor fee, or try to book him a room. Our WC said we'd need 3 nights which is more expensive, so I might wait until we get switched to our onsite and deal with it then. Even if we do have to pay the vendor fee, he was still cheaper and included more in his package than the resort djs.
And haha I love your last line - I call it MY wedding all the time haha, then remember I should say we . My FI has no opinion about these things so is just leaving it all to me haha