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#21 whatsup

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    Posted 27 May 2012 - 05:40 AM

    Really important to do this together, so you show a united front as a couple.

    This way each set of parents won't think the other FI is not being flexible.

    #22 Gin Bootles

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      Posted 08 June 2012 - 08:52 AM

      well here is the last and final update using this website... i will be on here to sell all my destination wedding things i have purchased to try and recover some of the loss i have had financially.. unfortunately my inlaws, and my family refuse to do a destination wedding. they say that it puts a huge "burdin" on them and what they need to do in their lives. they want me to do what i want to do, but of course "with costs" to family relationships..  so i guess everyone wins but me, yet again... i will not be having a destination wedding. I have always said if my family couldnt go, meaning my father couldnt walk me down the aisle that i wouldnt do the whole destination wedding thing.. and i am going to hold true to my word. even though this breaks my heart, i can't walk down the aisle alone.. i guess this is how things are supposed to be, even though i disagree, what can i do right? well thanks for everything ladies, and i will most likely be using ideas off of this site, and wanting to use opinions.. i wont be able to do a destination wedding planning thread :( 

      All because, two people fell in love!

      #23 brgephar

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        Posted 08 June 2012 - 10:08 AM

        This breaks my heart for you. I'm sure you will still have an amazing wedding! At the end of the day, you are marrying your prince charming and the two of you will be so happy together that hopefully you won't even miss the destination wedding!

        #24 Peach

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          Posted 08 June 2012 - 10:09 AM

          Sorry to hear that you are not getting your dream wedding. It sounds like you are disappointed (rightfully so) but are trying to look at the positive. Good work. I am sure that things will work out, and not that it helps to hear, but remember that, after all, at the end of the day you are still ending up married to your man, and that is what it is all about, right?

          Easy for me to say.

          I am really sorry to hear it though.

          #25 FIFAbride

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            Posted 08 June 2012 - 10:23 AM

            It is your wedding.  You and your fiance should decide what you want and base decisions on that.  I would be willing to bet that everyone that can't go are people that would not be contributing to your trip or honeymoon financially.  Have a small AHR for them if you want.

            #26 shannonmarie

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            Posted 08 June 2012 - 10:31 AM

            It sucks that you aren't going to have what you want! If it were me, I'd still get married at the resort I was planning with just me and my fiance and have a AHR. It's your day. If you aren't going to do it though, make sure you take an amazing honeymoon!

            62 guest booked, plus Bride and Groom!

            #27 Gin Bootles

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              Posted 08 June 2012 - 12:52 PM

              no one can afford to go, we have had multiple friends and family fights about it.. i guess it just wasnt meant to be. thanks for the words of wisdom ladies

              All because, two people fell in love!

              #28 2bmrstremblay

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                Posted 02 July 2012 - 07:53 PM

                So sorry that your destination wedding isn't happening for the time. I think some of the advice here was great on how to deal with family things in general so thanks to all the ladies that took time to write. I know that it is hard but I am sure you guy will have a great wedding and a fantastic honeymoon...and honestly your trip will be better without all his family along to complain the whole time....



                Good luck!

                #29 wallabymeisje

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                  Posted 11 August 2012 - 08:48 AM

                  good luck i am so sorry that things didnt work out the way you wanted to

                  #30 McLecker

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                    Posted 12 August 2012 - 08:44 PM

                    Wow. really sorry to hear your story. Keep focused on your husband to be. He is your partner and that is the most important thing - as heartbreaking as this is for you now. Good luck!

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