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Hello all ..

I need to vent and also see if perhaps I'm overreacting. Well, it is to a point where I think I'm a bridezilla. 

 

We are not having a huge bridal party; just witnesses; Maid of Honour and Best Man.  Oh boy - the best man.. it all started a few months back when I advised what our theme decor colours were (fuschia) and the witnesses would be in turquise/aqua to accent the fuschia.

 

My maid of honour; gave her a choice - fuschia or aqua dress. We wuold then reverse the colours as it didn't matter to me. She chose aqua - went, got a dress; no issues.

 

Best man - ManOdrama galore. First it was the issue of the suit.  FI and BM decided that FI should wear a black suit; GREAT. 

At first we thought that FI would wear light colours so I said light colours, but once they suit was changed to black; I said that the BM is got to be in a dark suit too (don't care what dark as long as it's dark).  Settled.

 

Then I said that I would like the BM to wear a turquirse/aqua/teal shirt. OH NOOOO, he won't wear it because he will not look good in the colour. So I said; fine. We'll get a tie in those colours as long as he wears solid - one colour shirt. So I went out with my mom; we found fabulous ties for the best man and our son (we wanted them to have the same ties); OH NOOOOO, he won't wear it because it's a thin tie and it will look like a noodle on him.  So I said; fine, get your own tie.

 

A few weeks ago, he calls and says he bought this shirt and it's summer colours (different lines on the shirt different colours). REALLY; is that a solid colour. Anyway; I said no way - solid is solid.  So he says he's got this off white into pink shirt.  I said fine; thats really nice, it will go well with the tie etc.  Well - it's pink alright with flipping brown dots.... NOPE, ain't happening. We decided finally on a shirt - done and done.

 

So yesterday he texts my FI and tells him he bought a suit. Right away I said : what colour.  Light beige. REALLY??????? I flipped out and FI and I argued because of him.  I said he wants the light suit, he can wear it to the welcome dinner, not our wedding.  I texted and said that at this point I don't care what he wears and what he matches with what. I thought that it was our wedding and the bride's opinion matters at least a bit.  So he tells me that when I seen his dark suit I made a 'face' so he especially went and bought the suit because he seen my 'face' and KNEW I didn't like it. And if I think he doesn't know how to dress he understands.  Whatever.  I was just too curious and first time EVER checked out my FIs msgs on the phone. The msg about me wasn't too nice. That I change my mind constantly, that i don't know what I want, and he will do whatever FI wants, but JUST FOR HIM. 

 

All this man-o-drama just wants me to throw in the towel. I thought that avoiding a big bridal party would allow me to have a stress free wedding and only worry abut my dress, oot bags etc. I only plan to get married once, am I not permitted to have our day done our way, whether it will be perfect or not?  After giving in with the suits going dark, the shirt, the tie; I'm fed up with this crap and when I put my foot down, I was called a bride from hell.  I don't want to walk down the isle and see him in almost ivory suit (Yes - that's how light it is). 

 

Sorry - long, but had to get it off :(

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This sounds ridiculous! Seriously.... who does he think he is?!

I think you should sit down and explain how you are feeling to FI, and how you are just not upset; you have had enough. So much for your wedding party being there for you, huh?

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omg...am I ever glad we only have children in our bridal party...I bought their clothes and that's what they're wearing.  The witnesses (we're still not sure who we'll ask) will be called up when the time comes to sign the certificate.  How frustrating for you!!!

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wow after reading this im not worried about my problems to come LOL....I toam planning a small bridal party, (1 MOH 1 BM) i hope they arent as bas as t his when the times comes for clothes shopping :(...i hope you get it all sorted and everything goes well for you !!!

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Wow! I can't believe the BM acted so immature and difficult! What a way for him to show support for you and your FI!

I'm curious as to how it all turned out as well. I hope you had your dream wedding even with his craziness!

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I just wanted to say that it's your day, not his!  I don't think I've ever met a guy that cared so much about what he looked like!  Really?!  Give me a break; there will hardly be any photos of him anyways ;)   

 

I hope it worked out.  I would've told him he's out, and found someone else! ;)

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