Hello all ..
I need to vent and also see if perhaps I'm overreacting. Well, it is to a point where I think I'm a bridezilla.
We are not having a huge bridal party; just witnesses; Maid of Honour and Best Man. Oh boy - the best man.. it all started a few months back when I advised what our theme decor colours were (fuschia) and the witnesses would be in turquise/aqua to accent the fuschia.
My maid of honour; gave her a choice - fuschia or aqua dress. We wuold then reverse the colours as it didn't matter to me. She chose aqua - went, got a dress; no issues.
Best man - ManOdrama galore. First it was the issue of the suit. FI and BM decided that FI should wear a black suit; GREAT.
At first we thought that FI would wear light colours so I said light colours, but once they suit was changed to black; I said that the BM is got to be in a dark suit too (don't care what dark as long as it's dark). Settled.
Then I said that I would like the BM to wear a turquirse/aqua/teal shirt. OH NOOOO, he won't wear it because he will not look good in the colour. So I said; fine. We'll get a tie in those colours as long as he wears solid - one colour shirt. So I went out with my mom; we found fabulous ties for the best man and our son (we wanted them to have the same ties); OH NOOOOO, he won't wear it because it's a thin tie and it will look like a noodle on him. So I said; fine, get your own tie.
A few weeks ago, he calls and says he bought this shirt and it's summer colours (different lines on the shirt different colours). REALLY; is that a solid colour. Anyway; I said no way - solid is solid. So he says he's got this off white into pink shirt. I said fine; thats really nice, it will go well with the tie etc. Well - it's pink alright with flipping brown dots.... NOPE, ain't happening. We decided finally on a shirt - done and done.
So yesterday he texts my FI and tells him he bought a suit. Right away I said : what colour. Light beige. REALLY??????? I flipped out and FI and I argued because of him. I said he wants the light suit, he can wear it to the welcome dinner, not our wedding. I texted and said that at this point I don't care what he wears and what he matches with what. I thought that it was our wedding and the bride's opinion matters at least a bit. So he tells me that when I seen his dark suit I made a 'face' so he especially went and bought the suit because he seen my 'face' and KNEW I didn't like it. And if I think he doesn't know how to dress he understands. Whatever. I was just too curious and first time EVER checked out my FIs msgs on the phone. The msg about me wasn't too nice. That I change my mind constantly, that i don't know what I want, and he will do whatever FI wants, but JUST FOR HIM.
All this man-o-drama just wants me to throw in the towel. I thought that avoiding a big bridal party would allow me to have a stress free wedding and only worry abut my dress, oot bags etc. I only plan to get married once, am I not permitted to have our day done our way, whether it will be perfect or not? After giving in with the suits going dark, the shirt, the tie; I'm fed up with this crap and when I put my foot down, I was called a bride from hell. I don't want to walk down the isle and see him in almost ivory suit (Yes - that's how light it is).
Sorry - long, but had to get it off