I like the way you are doing it!!! Of course, who doesn't like gifts? I could sure use that upgraded blender/margarita machine! LOL! I want to redo my bedroom linens!!! I know what you mean...some people would rather give a gift than make a donation...and I am sure my friends/family will throw me a surprise shower for I have never been married and they are all going to want me to experience the whole tradition of marriage and what comes with it.
I have heard about these travel registries and think that is a great idea, too.
Not sure if my FI will "come around" on this. I am sure this summer once we are back on our boat amongst our friends every weekend...and if the subject comes up, they may sway him....we'll see.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me.
Elissae - we are in the same boat. We don't really NEED things, but know there are people who aren't able to attend and will want to give a gift. My FI was more comfortable with a traditional registry, so we went for upgrades on things - small appliances (that kick-butt blender for frozen drinks!), new towels, new comforter sets, sheets, etc. Worst case we'll get gift cards that we can add up towards some of the upgrade items.
I really, really like the idea of either a travel registry (help us pay for our wedding-moon!), or deposit a gift (http://www.depositagift.com). DAG is a cash registry, but you actually register for items. then people contribute for them, and you can decide how/when/what to buy.
I do like the idea of "in lieu of gifts, please consider a donation to our favorite charities" and then list them. My experience with that has been that most people don't want to do this unless they happen to be big supporters of that particular charity as well.
just some thoughts for you!