@@kfracassi - No, you don't need their officiant to do a symbolic ceremony. anyone can do it! just let them know you don't need one or they will book someone for you.
here's the symbolic ceremony script that another bride posted:
Marriage Celebration of
Gita and Nick
El Dorado Resort, México
We have come together, family and friends, to uphold you Gita and Nick as you make your vows of marriage. We celebrate with you the love you have discovered in each other and support your decision to commit yourselves to one another for the rest of your lives.
Marriage is a holy state born in the name of love. It was given in wisdom and in kindness, so that mankind would find happiness. Your marriage is a union between the two of you and therefore is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly. Our ceremony today is based on the relationship that you, Gita and Nick, share, and in your faith, for it is a covenant. It is indeed, a joyous occasion when two souls are united in love; when two hearts experience the same feeling and two persons act as one in this most beautiful spiritual union. We affirm this love you have for each other.
We ask to bless this marriage, and seal the commitment of Gita and Nick. Assure them of your abiding presence, as they look to you for wisdom, strength, patience and a lasting love for one another so they can live together in a way that will bless them both, and bring honor. We pray that the words and spirit of our gathering may be filled with meaning, which will deepen with the passing years.
Gita and Nick today is a very special day in your lives. Now you have decided to live the rest of your lives together as husband and wife, promising to face the future together, accepting whatever may lie ahead. Soon you will be declared man and wife, but you will have to decide each day that stretches out before you, that you truly want to be married.
Love makes the burdens lighter, because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger so you can reach out and become involved in life in ways you dared not risk alone.
Gita and Nick, your marriage is intended to join you for life in a relationship so intimate and personal that it will change your whole being. To attain such love, you will need to commit yourselves to each other freely and gladly for the sake of a richer and deeper life together..
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
Love never fails…
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
The covenant of marriage is one that can be entered into only by persons who are both legally and spiritually free to offer themselves to one another.
Nick, Do you come of your own free will and with a conscious desire to be united in marriage with Gita?
Gita do you come of your own free will and with a conscious desire to be united in marriage with Nick?
Gita and Nick do you promise to care for each other in the joys and sorrows of life, come what may, and to share the responsibility for growth and enrichment of your life together?
Minister to couple: Will you please, as an expression that your hearts are joined together in love, now join hands?
Minister to groom: Nick, this woman whom you hold by the hand is to be your wife. She has given you one of the most sacred things under heaven: a woman’s life and a woman’s love. It is not what you bring her in a material way that will make true happiness; for riches without love is nothing. The gift without the giver is bare. Practice as a husband the virtues that you have shown as friend and lover so her heart will be won to your heart FOREVER.
Nick would you look into Gita eyes and share the vows you’ve written for her:
INSERT GROOM’S PERSONAL VOWS HERE
Minister to Bride: Gita, this man whom you hold by the hand is to be your husband. Upon your life, your love, and your devotion he will lean for strength and inspiration. He is going to look to you for encouragement, for cheerfulness and for confidence. May your life and love be the inspiration that will constantly lead him to greater affection and devotion to you, his wife?
Gita would you look into Nick eyes and share the vows you’ve written for him:
INSERT BRIDE’S PERSONAL VOWS HERE
You, Gita and Nick, have pledged your devotion to each other. From this point on you do not stay together simply because you love; you choose to love because you have made the commitment to be together. What has been joined let no man separate.
Minister to Groom: Nick, place this ring on Gita finger. Now while holding her hand please repeat after me: I give you this ring / as a symbol of my love and faithfulness I promise to cherish you / and honor you / each and every day / for as long as we both shall live.
Minister to Bride: Gita, place this ring on Nick finger. Now while holding his hand please repeat after me: I give you this ring / as a symbol of my love and faithfulness I promise to cherish you / and honor you / each and every day / for as long as we both shall live.
A ring is a fitting symbol to represent the covenant you are making today, a circle, the emblem of eternity, reminding you that your love, devotion and commitment to one another are to be forever.
Gita and Nick, may these rings be blessed as a symbol of your affectionate unity. Your lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever you go, may you always return to one another? May you two find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn? May you grow in understanding and in compassion? May the home that you will have together be full of love, laughter, family and friends? May these rings on your fingers symbolize the touch of the spirit of love that is in your hearts?
THE SAND CEREMONY
Gita and Nick today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.
We give thanks for this moment that brings Gita and Nick together in marriage. We celebrate with them the hopes they hold for their life together. We ask your blessing upon them, to sustain them through the difficult and uncertain times that come to every relationship.
May they continue to grow together and may their love for one another deepen with the passing years. Amen.
Because you, Gita and Nick have exchanged your promises of faithful love, and because in our presence you have exchanged symbols which make your covenant visible, we now recognize before God and the community that you are husband and wife.
Nick, you may now kiss your bride.
Congratulations! Ladies & Gentlemen, I now present to you Mr. and Mrs. ____________