Jump to content
Sign in to follow this  

Just got back from a DW! Tips on what to do and what NOT to do!

Recommended Posts

Hey Everyone,


My FI and I just got back from a close friend's vow renewal in the DR. They got married 5 years ago in City Hall and  finally got around to planning a real wedding.  Since the bride is from the DR, they chose to have the wedding there.  I don't know if I was more critical since I'm planning a DW (probably) but here are my observations on a few of our experiences.


Room Blocks

The couple were very disorganized and we actually didn't have a reservation when we showed up.  They told all of us (about 25 of us traveling from the US) that we could call the hotel and mention that we were attending their wedding to get a discounted room rate.  We attempted several times without success.  They hotel staff spoke poor English and even though I speak fluent spanish, they could not coordinate our reservation.  It was frustrating to say the least.  However, once we showed up, they were helpful and friendly.  


I noticed that the whole weekend, the waiters and hotel staff had to chase after guests that had not signed their checks.  It was really chaotic and disorganized and often times we ended up paying for other people's drinks (not that big of a deal when the drink cost $3 and when other's were accidentally paying for your's).


**I have stressed how important it is for us for our guest to have a smooth booking process with our Wedding Coordinator.  The OC and Atlantis have been provided us Group Codes to pass along to our guests so that when they call the reservation desk, they will have access to our Group Rate.


**In order to prevent check confusion, I'm going to meet with the staff at the Ocean Club and request that all checks be closed when food and beverage is served and that open tabs be held with room keys.  To avoid having to pay for our guests' every meal and cocktail, I have added a clause in our Event Contract stating that we shall not be financially responsible for any food or beverage outside of our room or events without prior authorization.


Transportation to/from Hotel

The couple had different arrangement to help guests get from the airport to the hotel.  Only about 30% of arriving guests had a seamless ride.  Our ride was 30 minutes late, while another couple's ride never showed up.


Our last day there, the couple arranged a bus to take us from the beachside brunch to the airport.  This was great as none of us had to coordinate pick up times or locations.


**My fiancee and I have decided to allow our guests to make their own way to the hotels.  It's helpful that Atlantis and the Ocean Club have direct shuttles for guests.  We are arranging 2 shuttles on the Sunday after our wedding to help guests make their way back to the airport.  Guests will have a choice of which time they want to leave at in order to make their flight.



Since the bride is from Santo Domingo, they chose to have their wedding there (at El Museo de las Casas Reales).  The venue was beautiful but the town was run down and quite frankly dangerous.  I'm used to traveling alone and I must say, I felt safer traveling around Guatemala alone than walking home at 1am with 2 men.  There were beggers and hustlers everywhere that would follow you relentlessly.  


The hotel was situated on the canal and a freight ship ended up docking there almost the whole weekend, spewing petrol fumes right next to the pool.  It was almost unbearable to sit by the pool.


**I think a better situation would have been to have us all stay at the nearby beach resort town Boca Chica (about 30 minutes away from the venue) and bus us all in and out of the wedding.  I know we would have enjoyed hanging out on the beach than sitting at the concrete pool deck getting high off fumes.


Welcome Bags

We received a small make-up kit like bag with the Bride and Groom's initials embroidered on it.  My initial thought was "what am I going to do with a make-up bag with someone else's initials on it?".  Another female guest mentioned the same thing to me later.  


Inside the bag was: 1 bottle water, 1 8-oz bottle of Dominican Rum and 1 8-oz bottle of honey.  We actually never drank the rum and had to smuggle the honey back since we didn't want to check bags.


Big things that was missing:  THE WELCOME LETTER and ITINERARY!  No one knew what time the events were or where they would be at.  We didn't know where to meet or how long things would last.  My FI and I were often asked about details as we were the closest to the couple.  It was hard for us since we felt like we responsible for providing information to other that WE weren't even sure of.


And apparently not all guests received Welcome Bags which I'm sure was just an unfortunate oversight.


**I still haven't decide what exactly we will do for our welcome bags.  The Ocean Club provides each room with a beach bag and I will probably arrange to use those bags and stuff them with things that the guests will enjoy during our weekend wedding (pack of cards, fans, soaps, in sickness and in health kits, bug spray and sunscreen- no food or water in these since the OC gives out bottle of water like candy and provides every room with fresh fruit).  For our Atlantis OOT bags,  I was thinking of canvas totes with the word "Paradise" and the Date 12/3/11 embroidered on it.  Anyone have a recommendation where I can get these?  For the Atlantis bags, we are definitely going to focus on waters and snacks since they are so expensive there.


**The Ocean Club is so small that they are willing to help me stuff and deliver all the OOT bags but at the Atlantis, they want to charge me $6 to deliver each bag and will not be able to do so until after 6pm on the day the guests check in.  I'm thinking about asking members of our Wedding Party who are staying in the Atlantis to help us deliver the bags as guests check in.


**As for our Welcome letter, I am going to have Wedding Stationary made up and handwrite a Welcome Note for each room.   I feel like since our wedding will be small (60 people or so), it would be a nice way to reinforce the intimacy of our wedding.  For the itinerary, I've listed it on our website but will also have a print out included in the bag.  I also have considered doing a Wedding Facebook with a few lines about how we know our guests and a photo of us with them.  This seems like a tall task and I haven't yet decided if I'm going to go through with it or not



The couple arranged a unique itinerary for their wedding.  The rehearsal dinner was on Thursday night with the actual rehearsal at dinner (those involved in the wedding practiced in the back room while the other guests waited in the dinning room with drinks but no food or music).  After the dinner, we all went out in the Colonial Zone to bars that were completely empty.  It was really hard to muster up the group's Energy as the guests were divided by language and age.


The next day (Friday) was a free day... all day.  Besides a 2 hour tour of the colonial zone (that started at 3pm), nothing, not even dinner was planned.  I spoke with the hotel concierge and arranged to have a taxi take us (plus 5 other guests) to Boca Chica for the day.  The driver was paid to not only drive us there, but also wait for us and bring us back home.  We all enjoyed the day laying out, kayaking in the sea and enjoying some tasty food and cocktails.  The bride left early that morning to see the videographer and did not return until late in the afternoon as she decided to go get her hair done and visit with her friends from home.  She was really visibly absent from the weekend.  As dinner approached, my FI and the groom made last minute arrangements for the group to have dinner as many of the guests felt uncomfortable going out on their own.  The bride was not pleased as she had apparently not wanted to eat dinner again with her guests.  It ended up being my job to take her into coming out.


**While we don't want our guests to feel abandoned, we also don't want to make them feel like they are on a tight schedule.  We also don't want to blow our budget on extra activities.  We decided on the following:


**Thursday night we are having dinner with our immediate family and then meeting the rest of our guests at the casino at atlantis.  We are including $15 worth of chips in the welcome bag to cover their first hand.  while we are at dinner, we are going to arrange private classes on either black jack or craps.  This will be a fun way to get the party started especially since drinks are complimentary in the casino 


**Friday we are letting guest decide what they want to do.  We are offer suggestions like a trip out to Bay Street, hanging by the pool at the Ocean Club (for those guests staying there) or enjoying the water park at Atlantis.  Our rehearsal is going to be at 3pm to make sure none of the guests that aren't involved in the wedding aren't inconvenienced.  We haven't made out all the details of our rehearsal dinner but we would like a casual beach affair with a steel drum band and fire dancer.


**Saturday is our wedding and it will be at 3pm.  Our guests will be encourage to enjoy the day.  We will be arranging transportation for those guests coming from the Atlantis to the Cloisters.  The guests staying at the OC will arrive by Golf Carts.


**Sunday morning we are having a breakfast on the Beach deck at the Ocean Club before most of our guests head back home.


These are the major things that I noticed and would change.  Anyone else been to a DW recently and if so, what was your experience like?

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks for the rundown - those are definitely some helpful tips.  I haven't been to a destination wedding but my close friend got married last year in her hometown of San Diego so about half the guests were from out of town (most from the east coast where both bride and groom live).  One thing I did notice that you pointed out is about itinerary.  I'm anal and of course brought my invitation with me but my fiends did not and kept having to ask me "when is such and such?"  I also enjoyed having free time - I went to another wedding years and years ago that was a 3 day weekend with literally about 2 hours of free time and it was way too rushed.  I'm trying to do something each day but figure Atlantis has so much going on that no one will be bored.  It's also difficult for us since people are coming at varied times - we're going Thursday to Monday - some guests are going Thursday-Sunday, some Friday-Monday and some staying a whole week and some are arriving the day before us.  My RSVPs are pretty detailed about dates so we can get accurate headcounts for each event.  And not only are people coming at different times, but from all different cities so there is no way we can even attempt airport transportation.


Another thing I noticed at that wedding and another one is that a lot fo people skip the brunch the next morning - some people want to sleep in, some people just want to head out on their own and some are headed to the airport.  We asked on our RSVP for people to check if they are attending.  We also decided to just do it at Mosaic instead of haivng a private affair and end up paying for everyone and then they bail.  This way we have an idea of how many will show but in case they don't we only have to pay for the ones who do.  Plus its in air-conditioning which is a major factor in June :)


My welcome brochure also lists "things to do" to give people ideas.  I plan on picking up a bunch of maps at the airport when we land to include in the welcome bag.  I'm also trying to keep any gifts generic and only put Atlantis or Bahamas on it.  I'm probably going to get my bags at Embroid Me which is a nationwide franchise - I went in to talk to the guy about a month ago so we'll see what happens next week when I go back with the final guest count.  I'm looking at traditional canvas boat totes or something like that - I want to do a nice beach bag.  The challenge is finding a place that will do low minimums - we'll probably only need about 25 OOT bags.  My plan is to give out most of these bags Thursday night at our pool bar happy hour and then the rest I'll have delivered to the rooms (for those arriving Friday or who skip the happy hour).  I was quoted $2/bag delivery charge and I think that's even written somewhere on the Atlantis website so you may want to double check that - I can't believe they told you $6.  I also was wondering if we could leave them at check in for the Friday arrivals - we will know which tower everyone is staying in and can go around Thursday dropping them off so people can have them when they arrive.


That's a good idea about the casino class.  We are also putting a chip in our welcome bag (although only a $5 one - our bags and contents are costing about $40 already).  Im stearing away from any liquids (other than water for the rooms) or bulky items.  I don't want guests to ditch their items because it won't fit in the suitcase.  I'm also being very conscious about getting gender neutral items - so many brides are filling the bags with lotions and candles and things girls like.


One thing I'm trying to figure out and don't know if anyone has ideas - communication.  I have a feeling most people are not going to activate international calling/texting/data on their phones.  And Atlantis is huge so it's not like you are going to just bump into each other.  Another bride said they were going to leave a message on their room voice-mail telling people where they will be (for non-scheduled times) and tell people to call the room.  I'm going to do that but still it would be nice to be able to keep in touch when you are out and about.  Should we have a default meeting location - like every day at X time stop by x?


anyway - love to hear all the ideas out there!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

These tips are really helpful!  I love your ideas and just reading them is getting my brain juices flowing for my Bahamas wedding!  I've only been to one DW before and a few lessons I learned are:


1.  Make sure any casual events have enough food for all your guests.  As part of a wedding weekend in Aruba, all guests were invited to the Bride & Groom's rental house for food and drinks.  The bride & groom decided to grill and prepare the food themselves, which was fine, but they were so busy drinking and mingling that the food took forever.  Everyone was starving and when the food came out, it was a plate of 8 burgers that were snatched up in seconds, leaving a majority of the guests still waiting for food.  To be honest, we hung around for a bit and snacked on whatever we could but ended up leaving to go to a restaurant anyway. 


*one thing that was cool about this gathering was that they instructed everyone to dress in Black & White so the theme was a nice touch


2.  Make sure you do not leave a select few out of an event.  I say this because my fiance and I were not part of the wedding party and thus were not included in the rehearsal dinner.  I think that this is fine if there is a group that stays behind but in our case, everyone else was somehow a part of the rehearsal dinner (including my fiance's immediate family) so we were the only ones left and had to figure out what to do on our own that night.


I would think that most of us on here are so organized that these things would not happen!  However, I'm sure the bride & groom had no intentions of making our experience bad and were probably so caught up in their events that they did not realize.  Hopefully all our guests rave about our weddings and the entire experience :-)




Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey Girls,


Thanks for the additional input!


Just a thought for the communication issue Steph was having.  I know lots of people are getting Ipads.  Ours was awesome when we went down in February.  Since we have 4G, we were able to use skype anytime anywhere.  It was like having a cell phone.  If that's not an option, maybe you could find out if the voicemail system at Atlantis allows you to record messages.  Once you get your room number, you could always make sure your guests have it and have them call and leave messages.


And Heather, I love the idea of having a theme party for the reception!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

I think i am showing my age here, but I've never used Skype!  We downloaded it to our iPhones this week and tested it out and its great.  Atlantis has wi-fi in most areas and we always buy the internet room charge so we are set.  Unfortunately since its $15/day internet we can't force our guests to do it - although we are "highly recommending it."  Another Atlantis bride had recommended the outgoing room message also so we will do that too.  So we're getting a little closer. 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

had another thought!  what about tweeting updates???  you could sign up and make your wedding have it's own account!  Name is something super cute (ex:  MaritalBliss, SayingYes, BetterNBahamas...) and share it with your guests to "follow" your tweets which can include anything from where you will be to updates/changes in planned events, to quirky inside jokes.  if your guests are already getting wi-fi then this may be a fun option!  May do it myself! 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Awesome tips!  I think it's clear that communication is key. I willl deff make sure all of our gusts have an itinerary at there room. 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  

  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors

    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • We just had a destination wedding and both my girls were flower girls!  The dresses from princessly were perfect!  Lots of complements! Would definitely recommend them!  Very reasonably priced.
    • I just want to say I got the best flower girl dresses on Princessly. It was very reasonably priced, they customized the dress to fit my daughter and it came within a couple of weeks. My daughter looked amazing and so did her cousin (who also wore the dress). The company was so easy to deal with and I’m so happy I chose them! Here are a couple of pics! 
    • Hello, I'm new to this site. I got engaged already and get married by next year. I have some doubts regarding our dating destination. Hope you will help me. Thank You!
    • Hello everyone,
      Well, this upcoming valentine's day is special for me because I got engaged and planning to spend the day with my fiance. I'm planning to give her an ethical jumpsuit.

      Other than that I have been searching the internet for some nice discounted coupons and searched among my friends and found different sites. Now, we are looking forward to that wonderful day. We searched a lot and found out, Escape The City. Orangeville is a great place for a day trip or weekend gateway from Toronto.
      Theatre Orangeville is offering a weekend package that includes 2 tickets to a Live performance at the theatre, Premium Overnight Accommodations at Best Western Plus Orangeville Inn and Suites and $75 Downtown Wine and Dine Voucher which is valid at select Downtown restaurants, and Free Entry to the scenic Trails & Bridges of Island Lake.

      We are so excited and eagerly waiting for that day.
      If anyone has got any other suggestions for the venue, kindly share your thoughts/ideas.
      Thank You!
    • Please tell me, the best wedding venue in Saskatoon, SK.
  • Topics