My sister and a few friends are giving me a bridal shower but it's at a restaurant and the guest are being asked to pay. I initially wasn't sure about the guest paying part. I have been to bridal shower's only at someones home and they provided food and everything. Now let me give you some brief history...we we're supposed to get married 2 years ago and we had 60 people booked going to Jamaica but I called it off. We're got back together a few months ago and we wanted to just go ahead with our destination wedding and we planned it for just the 2 of us and made plans within 2 weeks. We then told everyone that it was back on and going to take place in 45 days basically. So that only gave people a little bit of time to work with and about 10 people have even booked and are going this time. So my issue is that of course if it was at someones house everything would be taken care of but it's not and the restaurant has a private room so guest don't have to eat if they don't want to. I'm just feeling some kind of way about guest paying but I also don't feel it's fair to expect my family/friends to have to suddenly come up with the money because of our short notice. I also kind of feel like I should have done the guest list differently now but it's too late for that. If I were having a bachelorette party I think that would have made some difference too. FI feel like it's something that my sister/friends want to do for me and the people that were invited are welcome to join if they want to and if they want to eat then they can pay if not then that's fine too. I just don't know at this point but I try to practice good etiquette. Any advice is appreciated!
Happy planning/living to you all!