I would feel the exact same way that you do and I probably would have fussed etc.. but there was a reason that they broke up prior to him being able to give her the ring. We all have a past history (some stories greater in length than others & outcomes being very different) but to say "I want bigger because she had" or vice versa is not how I believe that anyone getting married should start off. Yes, my ego would be a little tarnished as he has witnessed yours but YOU alone are marrying a great man with dynamic in-laws whose stepping up in so many ways for you and your family. That to me is what matters not the size of your ring. You have more in him (from what I have read) that he would not be able to afford in putting in a ring. You have a man that cares about you, and your family to the fullest... that my friend has no karat size related. IMO of course.
Originally Posted by summer12
Okay ladies I need to know what you would do in this situation. My FI and I were talking about my ring today. He had bought a ring for another girl once but they broke up before he gave it to her. I have known that since before we were engaged. Somehow in conversation he mentioned that he spend more on her ring then he did on mine. I of course was not super happy about this. Especially when I found out he spend over double the amount on her ring. Now, I'm not very materialistic, but that hurts me because to me the man I marry should think I deserve the best right? He says he didn't like the ring he got her and liked the one he got me. But now since he knows he hurt me he said he has to upgrade my ring. If you found this out what would your reaction be? I tried the whole "it's not the ring I'm marrying" thing but to be honest I wouldn't mind something bigger. Ugh, after all this $$ stuff with my parents and I "materialistic me" needs a bigger ring?
Anyways... thoughts ladies? Tell me I'm not the only one that would feel this way?