No BM or MOH
Posted 06 June 2010 - 11:59 PM
Problem is, he will only have the best man, no grooms men. Call it OCD, I want the same number or people on either side.
That's neither here nor there. It really isn't a big deal. What is really an issue is the fact that my best friends and my older sister live overseas and don't know wedding etiquette in the US. My little sister (who is 17) is here and I guess she knows how things work, but she awful at logistics and organizing stuff, so she will probably just stand next to me and her job will be done. That means I am completely ALONE in the planning process. I don't see me getting a bridal party, a bachelorette party, or anything that goes with the wedding-planning process. I will have to choose the dress by myself, etc.
I have other good friends, but asking them to come along and not asking them to be in my wedding party... I don't know how they will feel. AH! that reminds me, one of them is already saying she is going to be part of my wedding party. OMG I never asked her or said yes if she asked. I'm not upset about her assuming that, but the part when I tell her she will not be is going to suck!
Anyway, it is no drama. I guess I'll get it sorted out at the end.
Having someone help me with the planning would have been fun and nice.
Posted 07 June 2010 - 12:29 AM
Posted 07 June 2010 - 01:25 AM
I think you're reading too much into what is "suppose" to happen, but your wedding is what you make of it! I loved planning my wedding, and wouldn't have accepted help if it was offered; I bounced ideas off of the occasional person, but I planned every detail and wouldn't have had it any other way - I had a blast planning all those details too!
ENJOY this experience!!!
Proud Mama to Evelyn Eileen since June 8, 2010
Posted 07 June 2010 - 10:18 AM
You don't need to go shopping with only people in the bridal party - can you not ask friends and say your asking them because they have great style and will give you there honest opinion! Not because you want them to be a BM!
I'm not having any BM or MOH, my sister was originally going to be my MOH but not she's not coming, so have got used to the idea of going it alone - to me it feels more personal and all focus will be on me and my FI.
It's the best thing about a DW - all traditions go out the window!
I'm sure some of your close friends and sisters will organise a Bridal Shower if you want one, I'm organising my Hen Weekend (as us in the UK call it) and my friends have been amazing and helping me out - most of which aren't even coming to the wedding.
Regarding you friend who thinks she is part of the bridal party, I'd talk to her sooner rather than later and explain. I'm sure she'll understand, but think it's best to be upfront.
Posted 07 June 2010 - 10:31 AM
I know there's the traditional way that things are "supposed" to happen but honestly life doesn't always let that happen. Try to go with the flow and if you want these other events I'm sure you're friends will be more than happy to organize what your sister in the states cannot without feeling they have to be in your wedding. Good luck!
Posted 07 June 2010 - 02:06 PM
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Posted 07 June 2010 - 06:08 PM
its a DW so you can do what ever you want, don't worry about everyone else's feelings. You won't end up having the wedding of your dreams but everyone else's dreams.
go shopping with your mom and/or friends. I went with my FI then took my mom and niece back for the confirmation (I had it narrowed down to 2 dresses). They had the pleasure of shopping without the hours of waiting and being bored.
Posted 07 June 2010 - 06:13 PM
Hang in there and it will all work out! Sending good thoughts your way!
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