| Originally Posted by mexbride83 |
Did you end up deciding to stick with your ring? For good or just till an anniversary?
I have mixed feelings on this subject. Personally, I don't think it's the diamond that means something, but the ring. Therefore, trading up to bigger/better diamonds in the future doesn't change the meaning of the ring he gave you. My mother has the same ring that my father proposed to her with, it just now holds a much larger diamond in it. But it's still her engagement ring, the one in her wedding pics, etc. So I have nothing at all against upgrading.
However, while I say that, I also did tell my fiance that I never want an upgrade, because I want to have a diamond that I keep my whole life and pass on to our kids. Therefore, of course, I wanted it to be big:)
We talked a lot about ring shopping, and he knew what was important to me, then he did a TON of research on his own! He seriously became a diamond expert, the salesgirl has told me that she thinks he may know more than she does, haha. It means so much to me that he did all of that work, and I can't even imagine how upset I'd be if I found out that he didn't even NOTICE imperfections. When my FI gave me my ring, he was trying to show me it help up to different lights to show there was no florescence or to try to get me to find a flaw, etc. He was so proud of how well he'd chosen! And that is what I think the pride is that md2002 is talking about. If your fiance hasn't done that, I don't see why he would care if you paid for an upgrade yourself!
On a side note, my biggest request was color, and that was the one area my fiance compromised in. I said I wanted D or E and mine is a G (this compromise helped him to bump it up to a 2.15ct, so I'm not complaining!). But honestly, I had no idea until he told me, months later. When you're not looking at two diamonds side by side, you'd never know what color they are in that part of the scale. So sometimes those scales mean nothing, it's how they appear to the naked eye (which clearly is the part you are unhappy with!).
then he had the store bring in (and send back) several stones until he got the one he thought was amazing! we didnt get engaged till july!! and when he gave it to me, he was so proud and had me look at it from different angles and lights, etc.
i found out later that they offered him a bigger stone, but the cut and clarity wasn't as good so he turned it down because of the lack of sparkle
I would never think about upgrading my ring, but that's because he really put time and effort into getting me an absolutely beautiful stone. the jeweler offers an upgrade where you trade in your stone and just pay the difference, but FI knows i wouldn't ever trade it in...I'd have the stone made into a pendant or something b/c it means a lot to both of us!!