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Does anyone else feel awkward about having a bridal shower?

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#131 MrsCtoB

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Posted 04 August 2014 - 06:13 PM

Yes I felt awkward about a bridal shower and told my MOH and mother that we didn't want one. We have lived together for almost 6 years now so I would rather our friends and family dedicate their time and funds into coming to the actual wedding if they can.

#132 nadiakat17

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Posted 05 August 2014 - 07:18 AM

I feel awkward but my mom and MIL want to have one. I would want something small I guess. I feel bad if guests bring gifts, but then you think about how many you bought for showers....

#133 NJBride2014

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Posted 05 August 2014 - 07:23 AM

I say if someone wants to throw you one and is really into it just go with it.  I didn't want one either but my sisters insisted on it and they threw me a bridal shower and this past weekend a bachelorette party and it was so much fun and I got to celebrate with a lot of people who aren't coming to the wedding in Cancun.  Its ok to celebrate and let people make a fuss over you this one time in your life. lol

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#134 Wrathwitch

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Posted 06 August 2014 - 05:49 AM

I agree with the awkward part. My circle of friends is VERY small, had to move around a lot, its not because I am a horrible person haha! (At least thats what I tell myself ;) 


I will absolutely insist on no gifts from the friends and family that will be travelling to the wedding. After the wedding we plan on holding a reception for those that couldn't go. If they feel the desire to bring something, that is fine, but in no way shape or form am I going with a register etc. For me that just feels like I am telling people to buy what I want, rather than what they want to give.


Not expecting anything, maybe a bottle of wine or bubbly to celebrate would be nice.


Besides we already have almost everything we need to get along. 

#135 veryvalentine

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Posted 06 August 2014 - 06:22 AM

I feel the same way! 

We decided to have an engagement party and announce our destination location at the party and give our guests save the date momentos.  We did register for the engagement party in the event that someone wanted to get us something - but we have been pretty clear about now shower.  There is a year in between the engagement party and the wedding so I figured it spaces out the expenses and sets the mood for the big wedding event. 

We are going to have a taco station and Mexican themed décor to get our guests excited about the wedding. 

If someone insists on throwing a shower I guess there is nothing I can do, but I am 100% happy not to have one and would rather not put my guests through the expense so close to the wedding. 

We were thinking of having a night out during the destination trip for our bachelor/bachelorette night out. 

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#136 beckys98

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Posted 06 August 2014 - 01:09 PM

I'm so paranoid that my sister is going to throw me a shower despite my insistence that she doesn't. She did just get married last year and I threw her shower and bachelorette party, but I don't expect payback! I'm hoping my not registering is a major deterrent to her trying to have one!


Thank goodness for this forum. EVERYONE looks at me like I have horns growing out of my head (or worse) when I say we're not registering and I don't want a shower. I'm going to send them all a link to this so they see I'm not crazy! :)

#137 mysticjade

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Posted 11 August 2014 - 07:36 AM

I dislike being the centre of attention and I’m not expecting any kind of shower (I’m more excited about having a bachelorette party), but I’m pretty sure my sister (MOH) and FSIL (bridesmaid) want to throw me one, so it might happen. But FH and I have already decided we don’t want to register, if anyone wants to give us a gift at the shower, money is fine (which is actually the preferred gift in our culture).

#138 KAT2015

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Posted 11 August 2014 - 09:49 AM

I just had one of my closest friends (and likely my MOH) ask about a shower.  I told her that I feel awkward asking people to attend an event where gifts tend to be normal - if they are coming to the wedding, I want them to save to come.  If I am not inviting them, I don't want anyone to feel excluded or like its a gift grab.  Plus, on top of it all, my FMIL and my aunt, as well as my FSIL all live far away and in different places so they can't attend anyhow.


The same goes for a bachelorette party.  My closest girlfriends are invited to the wedding, and I thought the best way to go about a party is just to try and do a day trip with the girls, and my FI to do a day trip with the guys. That way both sides of the family are involved. And it wouldn't cost much more than a night of drinks and dancing anyhow.


I likely will, however, put together a small registry.  This is because a) I have had people ask me and tell me they want to get us something and B) my FI has family in England that may not be able to attend and may want to purchase something.  We don't need alot, and the disclaimer will be that the pleasure of everyone's company is gift enough for us.  I literally think all we could use is new toaster, matching silverware, matching dishes and maybe a new duvet set.  We have all the furniture and electronics we could ever need and I love cooking so I've accumulate all my necessary kitchen tools!

#139 cometgirl

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 02:47 PM

I told my Mom and my MOH that I didn't need a bridal shower, but my MOH's response was..if people want to throw you one, you can't tell them no.  So essentially if one gets thrown I will put a smile on my face as I know some people will not be able to come to the wedding in Mexico but will want to celebrate with me. 

#140 calgarybride2015

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 03:06 PM

I told my Mom and my MOH that I didn't need a bridal shower, but my MOH's response was..if people want to throw you one, you can't tell them no. So essentially if one gets thrown I will put a smile on my face as I know some people will not be able to come to the wedding in Mexico but will want to celebrate with me.

I felt bad too! I know the girls are throwing me a large bachelorette so this will be for everyone who is and isn't coming to Mexico. There won't be anything else (that I'm aware of). But we plan to make it a get together first with games and such, then the wild ones can head out on the town. So it's kind of mixing everything together.

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