The First Family Fight...Children at the Wedding
Posted 16 July 2007 - 04:58 PM
Posted 16 July 2007 - 05:03 PM
It sounds like you've already arranged for baby sitting at the venue - right?
In my experience, the younger the children, then more difficult it is for mommies to want to leave them. It's just the way it is. My best friend in the world did not come to our wedding because she has a 2 year old and a 4 month old & just couldn't see it working out - so she made the decision that was best for her & I respected it.
I think you've just gotta let people do what they are going to do. I wouldn't indulge the desire to debate them over it.
**Note - I did not have a "no kids" policy - I would have welcomed any of my friends children to the wedding.
Posted 16 July 2007 - 05:06 PM
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Posted 16 July 2007 - 05:19 PM
Posted 16 July 2007 - 05:23 PM
The other thing is you are asking them to come so far, and pay so much to get there, it is really difficult to tell your guests that their children are not welcome. I think you should try to look at other options, arrange for the hotel to have an activity, with supervision, for all the children to do during the wedding, and a special kids dinner or something. The kids will then feel special, instead of like intruders, and there is a feeling of safety in numbers for the parents leaving their kids. And if the kids are not welcome at the reception be prepared for the parents of those children to probably head in early.
This is a difficult problem, and a tough one to handle. I just know for myself I would figure out a way to accomadate all of my guests, which the kids are also our guests as well.
You could also just make it clear no kids, and be prepared for some people to then not attend your wedding, and if your good with that, then that is your answer!
Remember my opinion is the opinion of a mom with 5 kids, and 9 nieces and nephews, all of which are an important part of our day, so please take it with the knowledge that I am of course probably not of an objective opinion.(I try though)
Posted 16 July 2007 - 07:07 PM
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 16 July 2007 - 08:51 PM
I hope this much drama doesn't happen to you, but if you stick with no kids, you definitely have to be prepared to have some people decide not to come. But it's YOUR big day, so if having kids there is something that would bother you, you gotta go with what you want.
July 5, 2008
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Posted 16 July 2007 - 09:18 PM
Have you thought about allowing kids at the ceremony ... but not the reception? Would that be an option for you? Then, people who don't want to leave their kids with the hotel babysitter could still witness you exchange vows, and then skip the reception if they so choose. Just a thought...
Posted 16 July 2007 - 09:32 PM
Posted 16 July 2007 - 09:34 PM
| Originally Posted by JaimeLynne |
I want a flower girl/ring bearer! Then again, we may have so many kids in attendance that it wouldn't be fair to choose and "play favorites" and I'm not sure how we could incorporate them all without making it an affair revolving around them.
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