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I was recently approached by a cousin who asked what I thought about sharing our DW week with them to help accommodate other family members that would be invited to both weddings. They've been engaged for almost a year without doing much planning at all, and we have been engaged for a shorter time.

 

What do you think? I don't see many negatives in there as long as the weddings are at least 2 days apart, but I wanted to see what others thought of the idea. We haven't started planning but I figured we could both do some research, and if we can't agree on a date/location, then that would be an easy way to say no to it.

 

Thanks for your help!

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I think it is a good idea if there are lot of common family members, and you can both agree on a location. And it could be a bonus for some family members who might not come if it was only yours (or hers) wedding, because you aren't as close. However, you might end up with some of her friends/in-law inviting themselves to your ceremony/party...

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I totally get that is would be convenient for your family, but I personally would say no. I would want to make sure that the focus was on me (That sounds really selfish as I say it, but oh well wink.gif). I doubt you guys will end up agreeing on everything, but lets say you do. I would not want people comparing the 2 weddings; who had nicer flowers, better colors, a nicer dress, etc. That is likely to happen if the weddings are only 2 days apart.

 

In the end, you have to decide if you are willing to share the spotlight during the most important week of your life.

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I agree with Karla. Yes, it's a convenience for your family who you want there with you but I think the idea sounds good... up until you get deep into your planning. I guess it all depends on how close you and your cousin are. If you both grew up together and are practically inseperable, it may work.

 

But if not, it could create problems. People could try to hear about your plans, and then let her know (intentionally or not) about them too. You'll be playing the comparison game and even though you may not have wanted it, you could find yourself competing for attention, ideas, input, etc.

 

Like I said, it's different if you two are very close that it wouldn't matter either way. Also, keep in mind she may invite ppl you may not know that well who feel they could come to your wedding too, since it's 2 days apart.

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I think it's a great idea, unless you have issues with sharing the spotlight or issues with extra guests who were invited to your cousin's ceremony coming to your wedding.

 

Personally, I would love it if one of my close friends would have their wedding a few days around mine. It would make is easier to deal with a lot of the stuff that you would normally have to shoulder alone.

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I agree with Karla. I understand the convenience of it but I wouldn't like it one bit. I would probably be pissed if someone even thought of asking to do a double wedding with me. A lot of issues could arise with trying to do this and like previously states Bride War. However, if you two are close and it wouldn't effect either of you then it may not be a bad idea at all. I think it really comes down to your personal opinion on the matter.

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I would totally do it! I personally don't like a whole lot of attention on me and I would love to have a close friend or cousin to do all the planning with and share costs. You can have two completely different weddings... even different locations but in the same area/city.

 

Ultimately it's up to you! If you can agree on a general location then I say go for it!

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