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  1. Hi Everyone, So, I was cleaning out my closet and realized that I never sold off my extra wedding OOT bag stuff from our wonderful DW. 46 Daily Spanish for Dummies 30 Pool colored OOT fabric bags - approximately 13in x 13in. They lay flat. I used them for our wedding and they were perfect for everything we needed to fit in each bag. There’s a slight shade variation in the group; I’m guessing some were cut from a different bolt of fabric. They are also a little wrinkled from storage and will probably be wrinkled from shipping. I have three additional ones, but they somehow got something on them (likely toddler related). If needed, I can try to wash it out and send those as well.
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    Vacation Vs Best Friend's Wedding

    Oh my goodness! This is a very tough one. I think if you explain to your friend exactly what you told us, she should understand. Be sure to reiterate that you would change your trip if you could do so without severe financial penalties, and explain to her that you already tried to change your trip. Tell her that although you really want to support her on her big day that you fully understand if she has it when you can't attend. Just be honest and upfront, and hopefully everything will work out!
  3. I used Rose of Sharon as my WC. Claire-Anne was WONDERFUL and they made a beautiful wedding that came in under budget!
  4. Hey ladies, I know I haven't posted in forever, but I recently got my Trash the Dress photos done in Bermuda for our 1 year anniversary! I thought you'd like to see. http://beckyspencerblog.com/you-go-girl/
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    Worst gift ever..

    What's even better is that she used to be super obsessed with designer labels....
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    Worst gift ever..

    So, we just had our AHR. One of my mom's friends who I have never liked (and who showed up in a t-shirt and sweat pants) gave us an expired Chia Pet. I mean... it's not just a Chia Pet. It's one that I can't even use because it expired last year!! Can anyone say obvious regift?
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    Bridezilla moment? Sorry if it's tl;dr!

    I talked to her last night, and I was able to explain more where I was coming from and she apologized for being insensitive. So, it seems like things are good for now, and we'll see how future situations end up.
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    Bridezilla moment? Sorry if it's tl;dr!

    You know, before you even posted that comment, I was thinking about that. I feel like now-a-days there's so much pressure on brides to not get upset or angry over anything because if we do, then we're automatically a bridezilla. Having feelings DOES NOT a bridezilla make!!
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    Just a Few Wedding Jokes!

    Thank you for posting something to keep this section on the lighter side!!
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    MOH rant

    I'm so sorry that she's acting like such a pain. I hope she snaps out of it.
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    Bridezilla moment? Sorry if it's tl;dr!

    I kept trying to politely tell her no, but she wasn't getting it. And I really wasn't in the mood to scream "STFU ALREADY!" Especially because I was concerned that would come off as being to bridezilla-y. I'm just not sure how else I could have handled it without screaming at her. This second point is my concern. That I don't think she's interested in trying to fix anything. She just wants me to make her feel better about her feelings. I feel like I don't ask much of her, but I really wanted to be the focus on this one day. And I kinda don't feel like it's too bridezilla of me to expect that, especially when I was pretty "whatever" about everything else.
  12. Hey Ladies, I've got a post-wedding situation with my MOH and I'm trying to figure out how I want to handle it. Here's a little background (OKAY, sorry! This turned into A LOT of background... I apologize in advance if it's too much and you don't want to read it all): For work, I had to spend three weeks in Italy right before the wedding. I started the trip out with a killer sinus infection and screwed up my hormones because I didn't realize how the time change would affect my birth control. Once I recovered from that, I got severe food poisoning (BTW: Speghetti Carbonara is made with raw egg in Italy). Since it was a new job, I was also super stressed about that. I had several problems with the hotel (taking my stuff, ripping holes in my laundry). I had already purchased some gifts for my bridesmaids, but I wanted to get them a little something special, so I spent one of my free/non-sick days finding cute earrings for my MOH and another day looking for perfume for all of the bridesmaids. On the way home, a couple bottles of Chianti and a bottle of olive oil broke in my suitcase. I got home on a Thursday, which I spent the entire day sleeping. Then on Friday, I tried to start packing (cat peed in the non-wine covered suitcase). So, in addition to choosing, downloading, and burning music for the wedding, packing OOT bags, writing my vows, and dealing with everyone's last minute questions, I now also had to purchase a new set of luggage. The morning of the cruise leaving (Saturday), my MOH calls and says that she is having personal feminine problems for which she needs medication. Since she was in the area of the cruiseport and is from out of state, I agreed to go to the pharmacy and pick it up for her. After all was said and done, we had to speed very heavily to the cruise port in order to not miss the boat. On the way, my MOH called me to see what was going on, and she agreed to go to guest services and see if there was anything that could be done to make sure I was let on the ship. I found out later that she asked one person and they said she should ask someone else, and she went to the spa instead. I also found out that she didn't plan a shower (which I was ok with, but it would have been nice if she offered) and that she didn't plan the bachelorette party. One of the other bridesmaids started asking about it a week before the trip because she thought it was odd that she hadn't heard anything. My MOH basically told her that she was too busy to worry about it and asked the other bridesmaid to run with it. After we made it on the boat, I texted everyone to come down to our suite for a sail away party (for which we supplied champagne and wine aplenty). Everyone came except my MOH and the friend that she brought. They were busy hot tubbing with some strangers. She had invited me to that earlier but I explained that my luggage with my bikini hadn't been dropped off yet. The day before the wedding, she wanted to go rock climbing and sunbathing. It was too cold out to sunbathe and I didn't want to chance bruising anything by rock climbing right before the wedding but I told her I would be happy to go with her after the wedding. I went with her and watched her climb anyway. The day of the wedding, I asked her to come with me to my hair and makeup appointments so I could get a second opinion. For her wedding, I was not only with her for her appointments, I paid for them. She showed up right before HER hair appointment but not in time for mine; she had spent the morning and early afternoon checking out the island with her friend instead of helping me get things ready (to be fair, I didn't specifically ask for her to spend the time with me except for the hair and make up appointments). I ended up having to rewrite my vows because somehow the email I sent to myself didn't send. I also had to have my FSIL be my personal courier to my FI because there was stuff he needed that he left in the room. Thankfully my FSIL spent the whole day by my side helping me. While we were getting ready right before the wedding, I was kinda freaking out because my dress was feeling to restrictive and I had bruised my rib the day before and I was in a little pain when I tried to breathe. Instead of trying to help calm be down, my MOH kinda snapped at me for being cranky. Right before we got into the taxi to go to the wedding, the wedding coordinator mentioned something about the grass, and I found out that our beach wedding was NOT going to be on the beach which made me even more on edge. The driver of the taxi (who would not be the same driver taking us to the reception) said something about the wedding not being at the same place as the reception, to which I replied "Well, yeah. The reception is going to be right here" and I pointed to the restaurant we were passing that was also the reception location. Since I was cranky, it's possible that I could have said it in a bitchy tone, but I don't feel as if I was being offensive. However, my MOH thought it was appropriate to tell me that I needed to quit being a bridezilla. After the wedding, the photographer was taking pictures and my MOH was chatting with him (mostly to suggest poses but it also seemed like light flirting was happening) and the photographer decided to start taking several shots of the MOH alone... which he didn't do with any other guest or bridesmaid or groomsman. At the reception, the MOH found a computer with internet access and decided to go on Facebook. She ended up updating her status to say something about the wedding, but I believe that the original intention was to contact her boyfriend who did not come to the wedding. The original plan for after dinner was to go back on the ship to dance at the ship's disco. The MOH said something about there being a caribbean party and midnight buffet, to which I said something along the lines of "that might be cool for later if we have time." The group of guests who weren't too tired to hang out any more made plans to meet at the piano bar near the night club. When she arrived, she proceeded to mention the midnight buffet several more times even though we were giving negative responses to it. Finally, I agreed to go up there, because I knew that she was not going to drop the subject. When we got up there, she said that it wasn't what she thought it was going to be, and so she suggested we go into the hot tub. I agreed (and got the groom to agree), but I said that I wanted to go to the adults only hot tub that was away from all the crowds of people. She insisted that wouldn't be fun, and I said that I didn't really want to hang around strangers on this special night.. I wanted to hang around my friends and family. She insisted that it had to be the hot tub in the middle of the crowds with all the people around. So the groom and I agreed that we would not want to do that and we invited everyone to come back to our suite where we would order room service and champagne to celebrate. My MOH and her friend blew us off and went hot tubbing instead. The next day I was still hurt and angry that my MOH decided that if I didn't want to do what she wanted to do on my wedding day that she didn't feel it was a priority to spend time with me. I had a hard time talking to her at dinner (I had made sure that she got sat at our table for the cruise so that we could spend time together, but I was regretting that decision that night) and I am not very good at acting like everything is ok when it isn't. I wasn't rude, but I was not friendly either. Afterwards, she pulled me aside and asked if we could talk. I didn't want to, because I was still pretty angry and I wanted more time to cool off. She insisted, so I walked with her and told her that I appreciated everything she had done for the wedding (she/her boyfriend made the boutinieres for the guys and wrapped ribbon around the parasols for the girls), but I was upset that she didn't want to spend my wedding night hanging out with us and our other friends just because we didn't want to do what she wanted to do. I also told her that I didn't want to bring it up because I felt like she would feel that I didn't appreciate the things she had done. She paused and told me that she didn't think that's what she had done, but she was sorry. I believe I told her that I accepted her apology but that didn't mean that it still didn't hurt a little. She then went off on a tirade about how unfair it was that she only did one little thing wrong and I was upset over it even though she had done so much other stuff. I reiterated that I didn't want her to think I was ungrateful for the things she had done, but it did hurt my feelings that she didn't want to spend time with me on my wedding day. I also stated that I understood that she was on vacation too, but I thought that the one day of the wedding would be a priority for her to spend with me and it hurt that it wasn't. She then proceed to tell me that the past six months have been all about me and my wedding and how I was so cranky on the day of the wedding and so difficult to deal with and how I was so elitist and how I had never been so hurtful before and how I was just being insane. Then she stormed off saying that she needed to wait until I had calmed down (at this point she was sobbing hysterically and I was still calm) but this wasn't over and we needed to hash it out. I invited her to go rock climbing with me on the day following that. She came along with her friend and we climbed the rock wall. She asked if I wanted to talk, and I told her that if it was going to be another fight, I would prefer if we didn't waste our last full day on the ship being angry and fighting and that we could talk things over after the vacation. Up until this point, I feel as if I typically took a backseat in our friendship. She was more of the star, and I was more of the sidekick, which was fine. Recently, her life hasn't been as stellar, but I've had a bit of success. We live in separate states now, but I'm always the one to come out to visit her. The times that she has come to visit me, it's because I've paid for her trip out to see me (which she could have afforded if it were a priority for her to use the funds in that manner). Even after I've driven 700 miles to visit her, she has decided to not spend time with me if I do not want to do exactly what she wants to do that day. I always remember her around Christmas time, but she will occasionally forget about me if her significant other is more of a priority that year. At this point, I'm not sure how I want to handle the situation. I didn't express my feelings in a way that was hurtful; I simply stated what happened and why it had made me upset, but it seems like she still wants me to apologize for feeling that way. She's currently airing her issues with the Best Man and posting passive aggressive facebook messages. I still feel upset that I wanted the wedding day to be about just me and my groom and not only did she not respect that, she also made the situation about how hurt she was feeling when she pressured me to tell her what I was feeling. I don't feel like she went above and beyond with her MOH duties and I feel as if my wedding got in the way of her having fun on her vacation. Other guests at the wedding also expressed similar unsolicited opinions about her attitude. Since we've been friends for 24 years, I kind of want to salvage the friendship, but I'm wondering if we've grown too far apart and if there isn't much friendship worth salvaging. My groom feels that maybe I should just let go of the friendship, and I don't feel as if I was overly demanding or that I was being unreasonable with my feelings or expectations. I'm still trying to look back at my wedding last week and not have angry feelings about how things turned out. What do you ladies think? Should I suck it up and apologize to save the friendship even though I don't feel like I did something wrong? I kinda feel that an insincere apology is worthless, but I also don't know what I would sincerely apologize for other than being a little stressed out leading up to the wedding (which I feel is pretty justified given how much crap I had to wade through just to make it to the altar).
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    San Patrick Bride!

    I originally found the dress at RK Bridal in NYC. However, my consultant sucked and it was like the Home Depot of dresses, so I didn't want to buy from them. I ended up purchasing from BestBridalPrices.com which is an authorized salon in the midwest that also sells gowns online. I ended up paying about $1k and they threw in a veil too. They were really nice and pleasant to deal with. I just found out last night that I forgot to put in the order for my veil, and they're going to let me do it even though it's a few months later! If you want to try the dress on, Ida's Bridal in Torrington has a sample size 12 of the Edimburgo. I'm not sure how much they're selling the dress for, but I think they might have other San Patrick gowns as well. They were pretty nice.
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    BDW Biggest Loser Season 11

    Question? What's our last weigh in date? I ask because I have really good and bad news. The good news is that I'm going to Milan for three and a half weeks. The bad news is that it's right before the wedding, I don't get to bring John with me, and the local cuisine has such awesome, but heavy, delicacies. I'm talking ossobucco and breaded stuff... not the marinara type Italian food! I'm so worried that I'm gonna eat too much and not fit into my dress.
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