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#11 carolina24

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    Posted 08 December 2009 - 01:15 AM

    I went through the whole planning, shower, etc process when I was engaged before and this time I felt a little weird about everything at first. Of course I was super excited that we were engaged and spending our lives together, but at first I was nervous about how people would feel (been there, done that type thing). Then I realized that this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and the past is THE PAST!!! Enjoy every aspect and ritual of your engagement, and celebrate your love!!!

    #12 swankster77

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      Posted 29 December 2009 - 06:47 PM

      I'm torn on the subject... this is also my second marriage. However, it's my fiance's first. Most of my friends from my first marriage disappeared as quickly as the marriage did. I think if we were not doing a DW a shower would definitely be acceptable (but not expected). With having a DW... the guests that are coming are already spending a good amount of money to be able to be at the wedding. Then if you do decide to have the shower the next question is who to invite... this is where it gets tricky. I guess at this point (for me) I think NOT having a shower is the best idea... first or second marriage. But who knows... I have some time and might be changing my mind.

      #13 Islandbride2b

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        Posted 20 January 2010 - 04:57 AM

        hi ladies, this is the second time around for my FI and I both. I'm torn with my feelings on this as well. It's so different this time, and to tell you the truth it feels like it is our one and only.. (wonderful feeling love is. :smile159)

        I have friends who want to "toss" me a shower and I wasn't okay with it.. at first.. then a good friend of mine and I started chatting about the boudoir that I intend to to for my FI.. and she suggested since I'm not comfortable with a shower, that we have a "pretty Panty" party in order to prepare me for my shoot as well as to get together with some great girlfriends and few family members who were invited to the wedding but can not attend to celebrate, laugh and have a great time. Just another idea!

        With all that said, we have registered do to a lot of people asking us to, if something gets sent in the mail we will be grateful but not expected of anyone. We are as well having a casual AHR when we return and I'm sure we will have a few guests who will bring gifts.. but again not expected of anyone! We just are thrilled and want to celebrate with everyone we love!!

        Sorry for the story board!!! Happy Planning ladies!

        #14 daniepps

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          Posted 21 January 2010 - 11:55 AM

          I think you should definitely have a shower even if it is you second marriage and if your attendants want to throw you a shower you should go for it. As someone said before people have baby showers for their second baby so what's the difference. If someone has a problem with the fact that you're having a shower they probably won't come anyway. And if you said you didn't even have a shower the first time you got married there really shouldn't be a problem.

          #15 nbills511

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            Posted 17 February 2010 - 11:11 PM

            I am a second time bride and have made it very clear to friends and family that I don't want to have another bridal shower......I feel like because I've already done the bridal shower thing with my first wedding....I shouldn't do it again. The majority of the people bought me showers gifts a while back :)

            #16 jeninesmom

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              Posted 28 February 2010 - 09:55 PM

              This thread is old but I really want to respond. My daughter shower is this upcoming Friday. Here are my thoughts on this. I was very concerned about NOT having people who gave and participated in the first wedding. My daughter is a hairdresser and we share a lot of the same friends. A lot of these are new friends due to my husband and I joining a boating club a few years back. They werent around the first time she was married. The very few I invited to come to the shower/party on fri that DID attend a previous shower I emailed them and said we wanted them to come and join in on the party part but PLEASE do not bring a gift. etc.. They are close to Jenine and it's really going to be a fun night with margaritas and tropical music. I think all us girls/mama's take care of each other. I think i went to three different showers for different marriages for one neighbors son. WHO CARES about buying $40 gift for a shower. ALSO this is her fiancee's 1st marriage!! My son is gettng married in August for the 1st time. This will be his fiancee's 2nd. He would LOVE a couples shower and I surely hope one of my dear friends throws him one.
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              #17 wendyjd

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                Posted 01 March 2010 - 12:44 AM

                Its my (and my FI) second marriage and I don't want to have a shower or gifts. I would be happy to have a luncheon or gathering to celebrate but no gifts please. My FI and I already have a house filled to the brim and are not lacking for any necessity.

                #18 HazelsMelody

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                  Posted 01 March 2010 - 11:33 PM

                  I was just having this discussion with my mom. In her family, they don't have showers for second time brides, or for second/third babies. Only the first time around.

                  I'm a second-time bride, however, my fiancĀ© has never been married before, neither does he have any of his own children (whereas I have two daughters from my first marriage).

                  So in my case, I won't be getting a bridal shower or baby shower from my family, however I will be for both from his family. And as for my friends, I only have one or two who were around from the first wedding/baby, all the rest are new since, so that's not an issue for me.

                  I agree with what someone else said earlier : If your family and/or friends want to throw you a shower and you're happy with that, go for it. If you're not, that's totally your prerogative too!
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                  #19 jerzshortstuff

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                    Posted 08 March 2010 - 10:44 PM

                    I am not sure how my family will handle this situation either. It will be my 2nd time, but my FI's first. And I have different friends now, as well as all of his family. I won't be mad if I don't have one, but am not against it. I feel bad for my FI because some of my family feels like they've "been there done that" but his family hasn't. So lets just say it could get interesting lol

                    #20 Snickers

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                      Posted 11 March 2010 - 03:08 PM

                      This is my second time around and I am not getting a shower. My MOH refuses to throw me one since I was married before. Of course that was over 10 years ago and she was not one of my friends at the time. It kind of bothers me. I also get the feeling it is due to her being bitter that I getting married and she is not since she seems to be playing that card quite often. My fiance thinks she should still throw me one but I don't want to push the issue.

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