Holidays and the Future In-Laws
Posted 30 November 2009 - 08:12 PM
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Posted 01 December 2009 - 01:27 AM
Posted 01 December 2009 - 03:06 AM
It was very stressful---we rarely fight about a thing. He was on my side, but she made him feel so guilty, he gave in, which of course, I was FURIOUS. I finally separated peacefully.... I got a text at about 2pm from him saying that his dad and him both called her out (quietly and privately-separately) for the fact that he has two families now and she has to understand that.
Ryan got an apology the same day from her, I got one the day after. I know she is having a hard time letting her baby, and the only boy of the family, go. But she promised to 'share' in the future.
So Bridetobe1515-----the only thing I can suggest is to share time, if that is not possible because of geographical problems- make a plan and stick to it. Don't let anyone guilt you into anything, and if it's your family doing the guilting, stick up for you and FI, and make him promise to do the same. After all, you have to go home together after you eat!!
Posted 01 December 2009 - 03:36 AM
I have no clue how Christmas is going to work this year. My father and step mom seem to think I should come up to CA for Eve and Christmas day but we can't afford to both go and while I can deal with trading off seeing one family for a holiday, I'm not willing to have a holiday with FI.
Every time I think about it I start stressing so for now I'm just not going to think about it yet.
Posted 01 December 2009 - 03:27 PM
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Posted 02 December 2009 - 03:42 AM
| Originally Posted by bridetobe1515 |
It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one pulling my hair out trying to co-mingle the families. My FMI hates me. I'm convinced of that. Every year they volunteer me to host Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve. I try to get in good with her so I agree to it. Now my mom is flying off the handle saying that she is sick of always skirting around FI's family plans. I invited her to come since I'm hosting and for the first time she agreed. That may sound great...but it isn't! I can picture the rude remarks and ham flying across the table now! I just pray that it all goes smoothly and everyone keeps their comments to themselves.
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