Saving your money by taking guest's money!!!
Posted 12 September 2009 - 10:00 PM
Why do people think we are being selfish by having a destination wedding? I travel all around the world I want something different not a boring catering hall wedding! I don't want gifts, I just want a fun vacation with friends and I am getting crucified at every family party about how Mexico is so dangerous and how I am being selfish thinking that people can afford to go in this economy!!!! Just don't come if it is such a big problem!!!!!!! I have not even told half of my friends yet because I know I will get a negative reaction. The fact that I had to justify by pretending I was even thinking of having a wedding at home bothers me, I should not have to justify it to anyone. I hate having to be nervous and not tell people because I am worried how they will react!!!! I am happy about it and so is my FI!!! I am glad you all understand, how can I be strong and proud? any suggestions?
Posted 12 September 2009 - 10:10 PM
Posted 13 September 2009 - 05:30 PM
I'm so glad that FI and I made our decision and stuck with it. We did it because it;s what WE want and what's the best for us. A local wedding for us would have had a guest list of at least 300ppl and would be like a circus.
Posted 13 September 2009 - 09:18 PM
Posted 14 September 2009 - 12:20 AM
Furthermore, many people travel to be at weddings. I had to go to England, Jamaica, and the USA to attend "local" weddings an no one paid for my travel and accomodations -- and I didn't even get a vacation out of it like your guests will at your DW!
Posted 14 September 2009 - 12:51 AM
Posted 14 September 2009 - 01:58 AM
Posted 14 September 2009 - 02:28 AM
If anyone doesn't like it, then they ought to have the good sense to keep their opinions to themselves, and if they don't, just tell them you're sorry they feel that way, but it's YOUR DAY and if they want to participate, then they need to just keep quiet and be happy for you. I have told everyone that while we would love for everyone to be able to come, we understand that not everyone will be able to make it, and that we'll be sure to invite them to our AHR, and people seem to be pretty ok with that.
As far as I am concerned, people ARE going on a kick a** vacation, and oh by the way, we're also getting married, too, which makes it a pretty cool plan all around! I WOULD JUST TELL PEOPLE THAT THIS IS A PERSONAL DECISION YOU HAD TO MAKE AND A TRADITIONAL WEDDING IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!
Posted 14 September 2009 - 11:54 AM
it is me and him, not for anyone else. I DO NOT want a traditional wedding, period!
Posted 14 September 2009 - 12:01 PM
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