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[Jo 2010]

OH. MY. GOD.

I am so furious at my bridesmaid right now I sweat I must have steam coming out of my ears

So yesterday was my FI's football grandfinal (he lost) and all the team and wifes/girlfriends and supporters went back to their team club for drinks and dinner. My BM who is also FI's sister also came. all the girls left around 2am - except her who drank on with the boys through the night - which is fine - except she ALWAYS ends up going home with one of them for the night. It happened at his old club, more than once, it happened when he playing in England, and now its happening again at his new club.

BUT, last night she decided to bring him home TO OUR HOUSE!

She decided to spend her money on a brand new car insted of moving out of home (25 years old and living with FI's parents) and now she is treating the home that my FI and I work our a$$es off to pay off - like a cheap motel!!

I am so mad - those sheets she defiled were an expensive engagement present from a close friend - when we have our first child - that will be the baby's nursery! I am so furious at her complete lack of respect. Our home is about our future and not somewhere wheer she can bring a one night stand!

Plus - where she is living right now is 10 minutes from home - and FI's teammate lives 5 minutes away - they could have gone there - but no.

PLUS! at 6:30am, she, still drunk, took FI's car, without asking, and drove the guy home, then came back and went back to bed at our house!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry ladies, but we are in a vent or explode situation here...

Thanks for listening!

[meghan]

Oh man I would be furious too. I would kick her out and not even let her stay there in the first place!! What does your FI think about it?

[Lady_Di]

that was pretty inconsiderate of her to do that... talk to her and let her know that your house is not a cheap motel for her to bring her one night stand guys.

good gosh!

[Jo 2010]

He was in no state to comment after his grand final loss -

I dropped him off this morning at 'mad monday' - I'm not sure if you guys have that in the US/canada but the day after a sunday grandfinal all the guys in the whole league go out drinking together - our whole town becomes overrulled 200+ with drunk men dressing in team costumes - so this morning I dragged FI out of bed, put on his school uniform (their theme is the school yard) and dropped him at the team breakfast at their ground at 8am. I will get a very sheepish call at about 8pm tonight or so to come and get him.

Believe me, as soon as he is sober enough - there will be words.

As for his sister - she has done it to him so often (one night stands with team mates) that it doesn't bother him (irritates the hell out of me tho!) I think its at the point where he loves her, but has so little respect for her in that way that he finds it funny.

[JOSIE]

ew that is gross and weird on way too many levels!!!!! she definitely needs a talking too! Anyway I hope the sheets are white and you can bleach them!!!!!!! I seriously cannot even imagine having a 1 night stand with anyone my brother knows!!!!! that is just weird!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i'm sorry for you!

[SSNM]

My brothers would have knocked me senseless if I was like that, but hey, to each their own.

All I know is my home is my sanctuary and there are certain things I wouldn't tolerate. Talk to your FH first as it would be better if he broaches the subject than you playing the 'mean-old-SIL' role. If he won't then I would approach her myself.

[islandbride317]

Um...."WTF!!!" doesn't even begin to cover it!

That is one of the most DISRESPECTFUL, sad, endlessly pathetic things I have ever heard someone's future SIL do to them -- the madness has got to be stopped!

How does she think this is an "ok" thing to do? Has she ZERO respect for herself, more or less the two of you? And good gracious, how does she even muster the courage to look you in the eye after behaving like little more than a drunken, shameless bar rat (and then have the nerve to bring her flavor-of-the week into YOUR home and leave her stain of never-ending impurity on your new sheets?!?) My mind is sufficiently "blown"...which is something else that probably occurred in that very room, no pun intended!

She needs to apologize immediately, and buy you new sheets DIRECTLY after that! Also, your FI has got to be the one to take charge of the conversation (since she is HIS sister, after all) and let her know that her behavior of using your home like a cheap brothel will not happen again, and won't be tolerated!

Some people's total oblivion to the way they should conduct themselves in someone else's home never ceases to amaze me...Give her the blast of reality she needs, girl! Because the sh*t really will need to hit the fan to get through to this thoughtless, sad little creature! Sorry to be so harsh to this girl since she is one of your bridesmaids, but I respect you and feel like you deserve my honest opinion!

[*kellis*]

That is so messed up. I have been in that situation before but never with someone as close as a sister or future sister. I can't imagine how furious you must be. That was a total lack of respect and responsibility on her part. I agree that you need to have FI on top of this before you start in on his sister, but you and he both need to agree that you do not want things like this happening under your roof. It doesn't matter if it is a friend, or a family member, or anyone. If you just don't say anything, she will continue to take advantage of you two and your home because she obviously has no regard for anyone but herself especially when it comes to her being drunk and wanting some action. Don't just let it go because she is a bridesmaid.

[SusieQ]

Sadly... SIL probably won't even get why your so pissed off and ready to kill her... She will be blindsided as to what your issue with what she has done. People that behave like that on a regular bases don't get that their morals are lacking....
Burn the sheets, tell her off and lock your doors from now on that she doesn't get in. If you FI allows her to do that again I'd be chewing a piece of his ear off. Good luck and don't allow her to hold your children incase she is carrying something.

[SSNM]

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Originally Posted by SusieQ don't allow her to hold your children incase she is carrying something.

Oh clap..I mean, snap!