Are you paying for your bridesmaids dresses?

[l2koster]

JordannaMarie, do you mind if I ask what store you found your dresses at?  I'm totally with you in the fact that I don't really want traditional bridesmaid dresses.  I want something they can wear again and again, with a cute beachy look.  And that price tag doesn't hurt either!
 

Originally Posted by JordannaMarie 

I don't find it's necessary to go to bridal stores to find bridesmaids dresses, especially for destination weddings!   I ended up finding my bridesmaids dresses on sale for $30 dollars each at a regular womens clothing store in the mall.  I wasn't planning on originally paying for the dresses, but they were so inexpensive so why not!  The girls will have to pay for their own alterations if need be anyways. 

 

In my opinion, if you are making the bridesmaids pay for the dresses, make sure it's something they can wear again!  The dresses I found are so cute and "beachy", and it will look great on all of them... and for 30 bucks, its amazing!  They aren't the "traditonal" bridesmaids dresses, but I like that about them!  That shiny, thick, all-one-color bridesmaids dresses is not at all my style.

 

 

 

 

[Peach]

I totally agree! And would love to see a picture of what you found!
 

Originally Posted by JordannaMarie 

I don't find it's necessary to go to bridal stores to find bridesmaids dresses, especially for destination weddings!   I ended up finding my bridesmaids dresses on sale for $30 dollars each at a regular womens clothing store in the mall.  I wasn't planning on originally paying for the dresses, but they were so inexpensive so why not!  The girls will have to pay for their own alterations if need be anyways. 

 

In my opinion, if you are making the bridesmaids pay for the dresses, make sure it's something they can wear again!  The dresses I found are so cute and "beachy", and it will look great on all of them... and for 30 bucks, its amazing!  They aren't the "traditonal" bridesmaids dresses, but I like that about them!  That shiny, thick, all-one-color bridesmaids dresses is not at all my style.

 

 

 

[bacha24]

I decided not to pay for my bridesmaids dresses.  But I was hoping that they would find dresses that would be nice enough to wear again.  I chose black and they all ended up founding cute dresses at BCBG on sale.  We tried going to bridal stores but I couldn't picture them wearing typical bridesmaids dresses.  I'm glad it all worked out. 

[dominiqueamber]

I think we have the same sisters....mine are younger and are 21 and 19 in two months and they feel I should buy the passports, flight, hotel, food and the dress because it was my choice to have a destination wedding. I paid for one's dress but I haven't officially asked them to be in the wedding yet because I'm thinking about taking it back. Plus they've been threading me and fighting over who's going to be MOH since I started talking marriage and I don't want to pick one. Are you sisters older or younger? 

Originally Posted by mishi071411 

I never thought about having my wedding party pay for their own attire because it's my wedding, and they are there for me. Also, with asking people to travel all the way to DR for me, it is the least I can do. On the other hand, I think my sisters (my MOH and BM) see this as one of my bridal responsibilities instead of a generous gesture. I'm afraid to give them their dresses when they come in, because I'm afraid of their ungrateful and hurtful responses.

Sisters can be some of the most important and most aggravating people in one's life.

 

This post has talked me into writing a full MOH vent in another thread... it feels good to get it off my chest.

thanks for listening.

 

 

[TheWolferts]

I paid for all my BMs dresses, but I waited until our local bridal store was having a trunk sale, so I got 20% off each dress... since then, I have had 2 BMs back out of the wedding, one via text, one via email... One has paid me back for the dress, the other is avoiding me like the plague.

[dominiqueamber]

Oh my! I'm so sorry to hear that! Do you have a backup? Or maybe sell the dress on a wedding classified (don't just post it here use others also)

Originally Posted by TheWolferts 

I paid for all my BMs dresses, but I waited until our local bridal store was having a trunk sale, so I got 20% off each dress... since then, I have had 2 BMs back out of the wedding, one via text, one via email... One has paid me back for the dress, the other is avoiding me like the plague.

 

 

[TheWolferts]

Don't have backups... She has the dress and refuses to call me back or send me a check even though she has said she would. She has effectively ruined our friendship by being this way. I can understand not being able to go, but to then act like this?! I just either want a check or the dress back.

[dominiqueamber]

Want to give me her phone number? I feel a bridezilla moment coming on, all I need is a good excuse!

[TheWolferts]

Haha I am about to stoop to writing on her facebook wall that she is being a terrible friend and owes me money or possibly even call her mom. I know childish, but she doesnt want to act like a grown up and I have tried all of the grown up ways I know to handle it.

[Nino]

I'm paying for the girls dresses i got turquoise convertible dresses form eBay. 5 dresses for 260 including shipping from the US to Canada. not too bad and i love that they all look different but its the same dress, and they can also use them after the wedding.... after i got them my mom and one of the bridesmaids order more in different colors..