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Mother of the Groom- wearing a white dress too----HELP

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#1 fmsmith423

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    Posted 04 May 2009 - 06:30 PM

    Okay, so I just found out today that my FI mother is wearing a white dress!!!!!
    This seriously can not be happening, right?

    What the heck to I do? She is throwing me a bridal shower this weekend.

    #2 Kat81

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      Posted 04 May 2009 - 06:39 PM

      We found out about a week before our wedding that my DH's grandma was going to wear a white dress. My DH freaked out and called immediately and told her no way no how. I really didn't care but he did. I would tell your Dh to take care of it. That is just common knowledge you don't wear white to someone elses wedding even if you are the MOTG.

      #3 JulieG

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        Posted 04 May 2009 - 06:42 PM

        Wow, that is really rude and thoughtless of her. Your FI needs to call her and tell her that is not okay and she can wear it another time on the trip, but she can not wear it to the wedding.

        #4 Jess

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          Posted 04 May 2009 - 07:26 PM

          seriously - she must just not know wedding etiquette...can FI have a talk with her?

          #5 ~*DiAnE*~

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            Posted 04 May 2009 - 07:30 PM

            Wow.. that's not good.. I agree, I would ask your FI to talk to her.. I would be freaking out too!!

            #6 cougs


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              Posted 04 May 2009 - 07:36 PM

              how did you find out? are they the kind of family who do practical jokes? like just to see if you freak and then they all laugh about it? (ok not so funny, but i do know people like this)

              it's pretty widely known etiquette that no one but the bride wears white (unless you're doing an all-white wedding, which looks awesome). i wouldn't have cared if my mom wore white but i certainly wouldn't have wanted other guests whispering about what a faux-pas she had made behind her back either, KWIM?

              if you're really bothered by it have your FI talk to her and tell her it bothers HIM.

              #7 litl_april

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                Posted 04 May 2009 - 07:38 PM

                Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I agree with the others, I think your FI needs to talk to his mom. This isn't something that you should have to deal with!

                #8 Scott-Pierre

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                  Posted 04 May 2009 - 07:40 PM

                  Definitely let your FI handle this! It's his mother, so he needs to let her know that is not ok! Why does she want to wear white? You could suggest that she wear the same color as your bridal party. This may make her feel more included and get her out of wearing white. I hope everything works out!

                  #9 angruck

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                    Posted 04 May 2009 - 08:54 PM

                    i agree with everyone. You should have your FI talk to her, he can probably explain it to her calmly and get it done. You don't want to be the one to say it, it might cause too many issues.
                    Angela & Chris

                    #10 erinleigh

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                      Posted 04 May 2009 - 08:58 PM

                      Oh my, that's awful. But I agree with the other girls - ask your FI to talk to her. Maybe (although I don't know how) but maybe she just didnt even think of it!?! I'll cross my fingers for you that that's it and all will be ok!

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