Posted 17 March 2009 - 10:30 AM
My FI is begging me to apologize. It definitely would not be from the heart.
What would you do?? HELP ME PLEASE....
Posted 17 March 2009 - 10:41 AM
Still in my head I'm just like what a friggin bitch! Ugh, that's the rudest thing I've heard in a while! So sorry this happened to you, you really don't deserve the aggravation. PS: I'm sure you are a lovely bride.
Posted 17 March 2009 - 10:46 AM
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Posted 17 March 2009 - 12:11 PM
Posted 17 March 2009 - 12:14 PM
| Originally Posted by lil_miss_frogg |
WOW....that really sucks. If I were you I would suck it up and apologize. But then again I would explain why you were hurt with her comment and explain you feel that you shouldn't be the only one apologizing. Hopefully she will see that she was also in the wrong. Everybody gains weight, but that is fixable. I would tell her, your son doesn't mind the extra cushion for the pushin. LOL....I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck!
I agree, I would not apologize. If anything I might apologize for getting so upset or the way I handled something, but never for the thing that the other person did. That is like saying that your feelings do not matter.
Posted 17 March 2009 - 12:24 PM
I think you should definitely speak with her in person and keep your cool the whole time. Explain that you were hurt by her words and it took a lot of courage for you to be able to speak with her again. Her son means the world to you and you both want her to be at your wedding (haha), so you hope she'll reconsider.
(notice, No appology)
Posted 17 March 2009 - 12:35 PM
| Originally Posted by Steph158 |
If anything I might apologize for getting so upset or the way I handled something, but never for the thing that the other person did. That is like saying that your feelings do not matter.
But, I would also make it clear to her that her words were hurtful and unacceptable and until she can realize why that was inappropriate, the two of you will not be able to mend your relationship. Even if she is free to think those thoughts and express her opinion, it does not make it ok to discuss these matters and it does not make you any less hurt by the situation.
Also, talk to your FI. Explain to him how this made you feel and how this is not acceptable. As your future husband, it is important that he backs you up when his mother is rude and hurtful, otherwise this could continue to be a marriage long struggle where she's mean and he tries to make you apologize.
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