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#1 Kristy!


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    Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:01 PM

    I've read plenty of threads on here about BMs giving brides headaches about dresses and similar things, but my entire bridal party is involved in one HUGE catfight. They are being mean and rude to each other and the whole thing exploded this weekend. I guess the bachelorette party is the source of the problem.

    My party consists of my two best friends as MOHs and the BMs are my two SILs and FSIL. One of my SIL is pregnant and lives like 10 hours away, so she's not attending and has pretty much stayed out of things. The four remaining girls have divided themselves into two camps: MOHs vs. BMs. This also works out to girls who are 27/28 vs. 38/39.

    Anyway, somehow FI has gotten involved and my brother called me last night to tell me he's sick of hearing about it from his wife. I'm not supposed to be involved, yet of course I'm right in the middle of it. I'm just ready to pull the plug on the whole things. I would've like a bachelorette party, but I'm done. I'm so fed-up with them all for acting like such children. It sounds like the e-mails are getting personal and to the point when they genuinely dislike each other. Wonderful! And the worst part is, they all have to live together in one villa for 5 days. I hope the house doesn't fall down!

    I guess I should've gone with my original plan...No bridal party.

    #2 kris

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      Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:12 PM

      Thats so pathetic, this day should be about you and they should be compromising to make it work so your not stressed out! I'll plan it for you :) haha

      #3 Yari

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        Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:19 PM

        If I were in your shoes, I would write a heartfelt email to all of them as a whole. I would say I know what's going on and it is causing you stress and hurting your heart. Explain to them the reasons why they are in your bridal party.

        Maybe if you call them out they will realize how lame they are acting and grow up.

        Good luck, it totally sucks that you are dealing with this shit!

        #4 YoursTruly

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          Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:26 PM

          I would read them the riot act and the main culrprits left to get it together. You should totally not be having added stress..

          #5 Andi


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            Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:29 PM

            Ugh how frustrating!

            I agree with Yari, you should send them an email and express your unhappiness over the whole situation...maybe you should tell them something about how you now DO NOT want a bachelorette party because of all the catfighting going on. Give them a nice reminder that you are the bride and because they are too busy arguing with eachother they are totally forgetting the real reason for all of this in the first place!

            #6 Bianca

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              Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:29 PM

              I would get them all together and just smack all of them... jk. I would def point out how silly they are acting and make them realize. If not, maybe I can talk some sense into them so they stop acting this way and upsetting my date twin!
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              #7 yamille

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                Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:46 PM

                Oh no Kristy I'm so sorry that this is happening. It sucks!

                I agree with Yari- send them an email and let them know why you wanted them to be in your party. I think it would be good for you even just to write it out. Why pretend you don't know what's going on any longer especially when it is involving FI and other family members. Good luck and I hope it resolves itself fast!

                #8 Betsy


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                  Posted 23 February 2009 - 01:55 PM

                  This is so annoying! Especially since they don't seem to realize how this is affecting YOU the bride! They need to just put on their big girl panties and deal with it!! I think Yari has a great idea, maybe somehow they don't realize how silly they are acting! Good Luck, keep us posted!

                  #9 Ana


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                  Posted 23 February 2009 - 02:02 PM

                  I agree that maybe you should talk to all the BMs at once and remind them that this day is about you and that their job is to make your life easier not harder. If they fail to come to an agreement than maybe its not too late to cancel the bridal party.

                  #10 *Heather*


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                    Posted 23 February 2009 - 02:12 PM

                    I agree with Yari's idea! I think you will get a better reaction by being sweet about the whole thing and maybe they'll end up feeling bad and growing up.

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