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Advice Pleaseeee!! (Before I over or under react!)

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#11 sstotz

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    Posted 05 February 2009 - 01:20 PM

    great idea! THANK YOU!
    ~Soon to be Shanny May
    June 20th, 2009
    Cabo San Lucas, MX


    #12 YoursTruly

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      Posted 05 February 2009 - 02:11 PM

      I would call her and speak with her first to get answers. Then drop her like a bad habit. Yes charity is important, but even that needs to take a backseat to close friendships. Certain life changing events require sacrifice, death/funerals and weddings, christenings...you get the drift. Please do not make excuses for her.

      #13 Jen_S

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        Posted 05 February 2009 - 02:21 PM

        I agree with the other girls I would call her or go to her house and just ask her right out. You need to know I personally do not think that you a MOH, you will still have all the other party stuff, bc hey you could have a MOH and not get those things.
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        #14 *Heather*


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          Posted 05 February 2009 - 02:23 PM

          I'd be pissed. What she's doing is really not fair and I'd call her out on it for sure.

          As for picking a new MOH, I wouldn't pick a new one. Your BM's can do all of the parties. Maybe just pick one who is better at organizing/co-ordinating and tell her she's going to be the co-ordinator BM! She can get the emails going etc about your parties but I'm sure all of the girls will take part!

          #15 Jess

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            Posted 05 February 2009 - 02:51 PM

            yeah Shanny I would be really upset as well...that is not fair - and she totally knew about the charity event.

            I would email her since she isn't calling you back and let her know what you know.

            #16 Chiquita

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              Posted 05 February 2009 - 03:01 PM

              I agree with Carly and Heather :) All of your other BM's can do MOH duties.. and I would definitely talk to your friend who is bailing on you.. that's just crap

              #17 FutureMrsLewis

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                Posted 05 February 2009 - 09:37 PM

                I'd call her and act like you don't know about the charity event. Just be like "I'm returning your phone call, you said it was important." And if she doesn't mention it just say something like "So are you looking forward to the wedding?" or something that might make her say "Yeah, I can't make it" or say something like "Hey, when is (insert charity name here) having their event? Isn't it sometime this summer? Maybe we can go!" and then she'll HAVE to spill the beans :)

                #18 tchuchuca

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                  Posted 05 February 2009 - 10:23 PM

                  It's funny that you post this... I am going through the same thing!

                  I took my best friend out for her birthday lunch & she informed me then that she wont make it to Mexico (she's known about this since last May & we're getting married in 2 1/2 months). She just had some things come up. She's been doing the same thing with avoiding me for the past few weeks since I guess she made up her mind that she's not coming.

                  I don't have any advice, but I feel your pain, sister!

                  #19 sunset78

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                    Posted 06 February 2009 - 11:49 AM

                    That sucks that she has done that to you. In all honesty, she made a commitment to you and she should have stuck with that instead volunteering for the charity. She didn't have to but she choose to do it but she did. A friend wouldn't have done that.

                    She needs to be honest and step up and tell you the truth to why she did that.

                    And I agree with having the BM help in the MOH duties. They probably be more than willing to help out.

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