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No one to plan bridal shower for me..

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Ok.. this may sound silly.. but I have no one to plan a shower for me .. as typically the MOH does it.. and I don't have one!!

 

Our DW wedding is really small.. only about 8 people attending.. since we need 4 witnesses, my FI and I decided to just have our parents be our wintesses...

 

But now... we are getting married is just over a month.. and I haven't heard anything about a bridal shower...

 

I live about 2 1/2 hours from my home town.. and through the years have moved from city to city...job to job.. so I have LOTS of friends.. but no real super close girlfriends... I always just assumed my wedding shower would be in my hometown ... I asked my mom is anyone is planning anything and she said she hasn't heard. She feels bad.. but said, 'I am the Mom, I can't throw it'... I have no sisters, (just a sister in law... long story there.. voodoo.gif )

 

My in laws.. live across the street (I know I know.. everyboby loves Raymond.. I get the joke... rofl.gif) and I haven't heard anything from them either...

 

Sounds silly.. but... this kinda sucks.... I guess I just sit here.. and hope someone plans something?? or suck it up and get over it..

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I didn't have one. I got over it. If it is a really big deal to you though I would talk to someone about it. My MOH lived in another state and my Bridesmaid had a newborn and lived three hours from here. It hurt my feelings at first but really I hate parties like that so in the back of my mind I was secretly glad. But if I had really wanted one like you do I would have talked to someone and saw if we could arrange something. Maybe your Mom can pay for it and your friends can arrange it?

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I think your mom can totally throw a shower if that is what you want. There are no rules that I know of that say your mom can't be the one to give you a shower. It is not a bacherlorette party where you are getting crazy...it is a girls day of whatever. You could even just go and have a relaxing lunch somewhere.

 

Oh, and if you really want a shower...I would ask your mom or another close person to see what is up, in a non bridezilla, just curious way...I am sorry, I wish I had a better answer.

'I wonder who will throw my shower for me too. But if no one says anything I would ask my mom or FI to drop hints to his side. :)

But that is just me...if I want something I make it happen. :)

 

Good luck!

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I didn't want one and still don't, but apparently my little sister took it upon herself to throw me one tomorrow...ugh. I don't have any bridesmaids either so that's why I couldn't understand why she would bother but my mom said she insisted...

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I guess I didn't really think too much about it until people started asking me if I was having a shower.. and I just felt silly saying I don't know...

 

but thanks girls! I feel better.. I'll just get over it.. on the up side.. I go to my first dress fitting tonight!! I tried to include my MIL by asking if she wanted to come with.. she was so excited and said yes... but I found out from my FI she left town for the weekend.. lol.. I guess it in the end it's a win win... I asked and she forgot.. haha

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My mom and sister and throwing mine! And I have actually been to quite a few where the mom was the host. I don't think there is a rule that the mom can't throw a shower...perhaps lay it on thick with your mom that you'd like one but that no one is getting it together...

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Prairiegirl I am in the SAME boat as you...I do not have a wedding party...so no MOH and both my FI and myself have no siblings.

 

I really do want a bridal shower so I asked my mom if she would host one at her house. I know that mom's aren't really suppose to throw one (per tradition or whatever) but my FI and I are not traditional at all! I mean we are having a DW and we already live together! HA!

 

So I say if you really want one you should have one...and if it is not traditional...oh well! (granted as long as you are ok with that!)

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I think that if you want a shower, then you should have one. It's probably hard to ask someone to do it, but maybe you could have your mom ask one of your friends if they'd like to "help" her plan one for you? It's possible they all assume someone else is hosting a shower for you and this way, it won't be just your mom planning the shower, and it is a way to have your friends be involved in the planning.

 

If you are running out of time, I bet you can always have a post-wedding shower, even though it isn't "traditional". Then everyone can look at your pictures too!

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I was also in the same boat, although I have 4 BMs. MOH lives here in NC so I think we are just doing the Vegas bach party as my "shower." Then my SIL lives across the country and can't travel again til the wedding. My other BM also lives her in NC, but shes a terrible planner and I would hate to see what she would come up with (shes kinda cheesy...) and my FSIL lives in NY so shes up for whatever, but she is a CPA and is out of commission until April.

 

BUT no one could throw one for me. At first I didn't want one, but now that its closer, I kind of do. Nothing cheesy with games...I don't even care about gifts. But I like girly stuff. So my aunts are actually throwing me one (they did so for my SIL) at a restaurant. Just something small and quiet. Hopefully it goes that way though!

 

But I totally understand, I would feel like I was missing out on something (traditional) if I didn't have a shower. Plus we aren't having an AHR.

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